Advice on a standard situation, I think...what you think?

[nishbuk]

Hey guys, I'm new to the forum but I got to say this is one of the best sites for info of this type that I've ever seen. I've read 60% of the bible, and I'm going to be starting the bootcamp on Wed.
I'm also very new to the game. I had my first real girlfriend this semester (I'm 21, in college and a virgin...AFC born and raised sexually repressive parents baby! Soon to be DJ )

Anyway. After I broke up with the girl I mentioned previously, I became interested in another girl. She's my best friends' sister's friend, so I don't know her that well, but decided I give it a shot. We flirt a bit, eye contact, etc., the first two times I meet her at my best friend's low-key dinner parties. Extenuating circumstances include: I'm good friends with my best friends sister (she's recently becoming like my own big sis), and I'm also decent friends with another one of her friends. The three of them are good friends, (including the one I'm hitting on).

Finally, We all go out together, and it's somehow slipped to this girl that I'm going to start hitting on her . Anyway, one night finally all of us go out, and I start dancing with this girl on the dance floor. Kino initiated, she responds well, I got her around the waist and she's got me around the neck. Eye contact (purposefully by me), hits home, and I got her blushing and giggling, unable to meet my gaze and burying her head in my shoulder while dancing. We grind a bit.

You have to understand she's 24, and she's already got a job and degree. I'm 21 and one full year away from my degree. She says something to the effect of "Let's try this, but take it slow" I'm thinking, okay, fair enough, she's at a different place in her life, and the age/job thing might come into play in her mind...

!!!What she just said here is important later on in the story!!!


Good enough, we dance a bit more (contact, but nothing anywhere near to dirty), talk some more (I don't give much away...hey, I've learned a bit )

And finally we leave WITH one of her friends, by happenstance. It wasn't a date, and they came together.

BTW, you also have to know that the three of these girls think I'm a blast (The first two girls who I know better, who I'm NOT hitting on, really think highly of me, as a friend, and as a good catch for one of their friends). I'm humorous and great in conversation, genuine, and in awesome physical shape. I'd like to think I'm a decent, well-adjusted, genuine person.

Anyway, the three of us go for pizza, and that's great. These girls then start talking about how another guy called Anna (the girl I'm hitting on), AFTER the "three day rule", and that she really didn't like him anyway and blew him off. (what three day rule ). I immediately strike a joke about it being a four day rule . They were like, "have the rules changed", I was like, "yes, where have you guys been! (sigh)", knowing full well that they have not.
Whatever, that's besides the point.

So we leave for pizza, and the other girl (bless her heart) immediately, and purposefully leaves the two of us alone to walk home, which we do. I walk her to her door, and number close. She says, "Well I don't have a pen on me, so why don't you come up and I'll give you my number". Great, go up to her apartment, she writes down her number, (whilst I play with her pet rabbit. NO you sicckos! It's a REAL rabbit )
and then I exchange rabbit for number. She says clearly, "I had a great time tonight. It was alot of fun dancing with you." I'm thinking, I'm in her apt, that's got to mean something, so I go for it. Great she's meeting my purposeful eye contact here, at which point I hold her cheek and kiss her once, and let her set the tone of the kiss. She definitely accepts, but it's very light...hmm. Not too long a kiss at all, my initial reaction is that she still has some reservations.
So after getting number, I aboutface and leave. She's saying "Call me sometime". I'm like "See ya later, bye!". I'm out.

I'm thinking great! I can now call her on the FORUTH or fifth day after, and I have a great opener. "Just calling you on the fourth day, since we've already discussed that there's no such thing as a three day rule... " (BTW this was Saturday so the fourth day would be this wednesday)

But...here's the "red flag" part. Now I see page 62 of DJ bootcamp which is a dictionary for translating "********". Let me quote you what I saw:

Her: Let's just give it some time.

Translation:
You're not high on my rating list. You're good insurance policy if a better prospect doesn't show up.

I'm thinking, there is prolly something to this. Then my best friend comes and tells me that there is this other guy that has flat-out rejected her, and she has a crush on him. Apparently she's still chasing him. Her friend (the one that left us alone) straigth up thinks I'm a better catch than this douche. Also, it seems that the other two friends (my best friend's sister, and the girl that left us alone) think that this douche has a near zero chance of going out on a date with her.

I'm thinking, CRAP. What a red flag...I shoud NEVER have to be second on ANYONE'S list. Anyway, I really don't have much experience with the whole don juan thing, and I don't get a whole lot of numbers. Five this entire semester, only 1 of which I followed up on, and got a 2+1/2 month relationship out of. But I have done a bit of reading.

If for nothing more than gaining experience, (and knowing full well not to be attached to results), do you guys think it's still a good idea to date her, and try and play the game hard with her? (Not be physically agressive, I was thinking make it look like she needs to do something for me before I do anything...)

If so, how would you reccommend handling this situation? I do like this girl, and I think that if I show her that I am a prize to be had, that there might be something there.

What do you guys think?

I really appreciate all responses, and I love this site. Bless you all for putting this forum together.

 

[RiceHapa888]

if you are worried about being second on her list why not make her third on yours? Go out and meet girls get rejected 10 times and have success twice........no girl is really that special...they are at the time you start oneitising over them but thinking about all the girls I've liked I thought they were special but sh*t they are all the same- just the girl of the moment- if you want practice go for it but spit your game on other girls...you'll be a challenge cause after awhile you wont give half a crap about her and if her IL skyrockets then you can think then how you will handle her...if it doesn't then you are hopefully with some other girl anyways- hope that helps

 

[Kaine]

This is a fantastic stuff! Those aspiring to be DJs can all learn something from this

You are at a great advantage at the moment especially with all the SOCIAL PROOF, keep playing it like you have. Remember girls talk! The reason she probably knew is because your friends (who are girls) blabbed. They have no doubt done half the work for you, telling her how great you are, if not they will. Guys take note of this.

Things you did right::

You have a confident mindset, you know how great you are. Weren't a a$$ about it and showed consistant confident behaviour. None of this needy "Oooh this girl actually likes me, I better start kissing her ass."

You paced her well and escalated accordingly leading to kiss and phone number by the end of the "date"

So after getting number, I aboutface and leave. She's saying "Call me sometime". I'm like "See ya later, bye!". I'm out.

Great you gave her a challenging ambigious answer.

Calling her on the 3rd or 4th day is a great idea for following up for the next call. You can play around with games that guys and girls play with her. Cool.

Age is not a issue here and never has been, what's important is how you make her FEEL. Remember it's what she says, it's her actions (and guess what they have been telling you so far) . Ignore her "let's take it slow" spiel, in fact I would've agreed with her (challenge) and said "yeah you're right, you're kinda cute but how do I know you're no some crazy axe murderer". BUT kept escalating physically. You're goal is to sleep with her. Move her emotions and her emotions will move her.

Sure you don't want to play second fiddle, but you need to play your cards right first. She needs to see value in you first, once her IL skyrockets she will want you and you alone. Remember it is unreasonable to expect a girl you have JUST MET to drop everything for you, she has no reason to.... yet

At the moment she wants what she can't have. You will give her that challenge too, you will show her what a great guy you are and move her emotionally on your dates. Then you will take it away, this will give her the chase she desires. Push and pull.
You will became the drug that is gets addicted and you will be the drug dealer.

Anything I would have done differently? Besides agreeing with taking it slow, I would've also kept escalating that kiss to get her heated up. Then progress further or do the take away while she was hot and bothered.

Awesome you rock.

Keep us updated

 

[nishbuk]

All great advice, thanks guys! It's still really hard to try and shed this insecurity and wanting to "get" a certain result. Something that comes with experience I guess...
It's funny you say about making her third on my list, because that's exactly what I told my friend on IM. Logically, and analytically, I've already done that. Emotionally? Don't think I'm quite there yet.
I guess I'll play my game a bit more, and attempt to get HER exicited about the chase. Show her I'm a gret guy. But the great thing? If it doesn't happen...THEN I WON'T CARE. (Hopefully that mantra sticks, and takes hold of me emotionally. As of yet that hasn't happened. )

More specifically though, would you think the way to play this would be to ramp it up physically?
(We haven't even actually had a REAL first date. So I'm kinda thinking that a kiss-close is out of the question in light of new info.)

Or would it be better to play this by not ramping it up, and establishing kino, affectionate kino, shoulder, waist, arm-in-arm etc., but then NOT go for a kiss-close, or even turn cheek if she tries, and then do it on the next one?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Do you have a favorite restaurant? I have a restaurant here in town that I really really like. It's a little Italian place, kind of elegant, live music sometimes. I was in love with their cannelloni. It was a piece of heaven.

One day I went to this restaurant and asked for my cannelloni but, alas... they didn't have it that day. I was devestated... well, okay, not really. But I always got the same thing, because I was certain it was the best thing they had. Dejected, I ordered the fettuccini alfredo.

Stuck with second best.

Second choice.

Second place.

They brought out a steaming hot sunken plate of fettuccini alfredo -- not Olive Garden or Fazoli's fetttuccini alfredo, but the real stuff. It was perfect. It was like eating Italian heaven. F*ck cannelloni. THIS was the best thing I had ever had.

Now, whenever I go back to that restaurant, I don't order the cannelloni. I order the fettuccini. Even though I originally thought it was second-best, I tried it and it convinced me that it was WAY beyond the cannelloni.

This is what you must do as well. Her cannelloni isn't available now. So she may get stuck with what she thinks is second choice... the fettuccini -- you. And it's your job to show her that that the fettuccini is WAY better than the cannelloni... that you are WAY better than him. I think you can do it. But don't let the idea that you're "second choice" get in your way. Quite frankly, she doesn't know either of you well enough to know which is the best choice. It's your job to educate her.

Best of luck.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Do you have a favorite restaurant? I have a restaurant here in town that I really really like. It's a little Italian place, kind of elegant, live music sometimes. I was in love with their cannelloni. It was a piece of heaven.

One day I went to this restaurant and asked for my cannelloni but, alas... they didn't have it that day. I was devestated... well, okay, not really. But I always got the same thing, because I was certain it was the best thing they had. Dejected, I ordered the fettuccini alfredo.

Stuck with second best.

Second choice.

Second place.

They brought out a steaming hot sunken plate of fettuccini alfredo -- not Olive Garden or Fazoli's fetttuccini alfredo, but the real stuff. It was perfect. It was like eating Italian heaven. F*ck cannelloni. THIS was the best thing I had ever had.

Now, whenever I go back to that restaurant, I don't order the cannelloni. I order the fettuccini. Even though I originally thought it was second-best, I tried it and it convinced me that it was WAY beyond the cannelloni.

This is what you must do as well. Her cannelloni isn't available now. So she may get stuck with what she thinks is second choice... the fettuccini -- you. And it's your job to show her that that the fettuccini is WAY better than the cannelloni... that you are WAY better than him. I think you can do it. But don't let the idea that you're "second choice" get in your way. Quite frankly, she doesn't know either of you well enough to know which is the best choice. It's your job to educate her.

Best of luck.

That's a beautiful post. Thanks for that, and great analogy. You know what? You're right. I've got nothing to fear because I know I deserve it. Whether she agrees or not is irrelevant. No matter the outcome, my heart is protected on this one, and I'm going to show her why I'm the real deal...

EDIT: I just went back and read Kaine's response, and this is genius.

Ignore her "let's take it slow" spiel, in fact I would've agreed with her (challenge) and said "yeah you're right, you're kinda cute but how do I know you're no some crazy axe murderer".

I'll make sure to use that one if she pulls it out again...

 

[Kaine]

Sure you are emotional and every one experiences every kind of emotion one way or the other. It's how you HANDLE them. Sure I may miss my GF madly, but I still continue doing what I do, go to the gym, hang out with friends, play piano, kick boxing whatever. I'll still miss her, but I continue life constructively and that independence is attractive to a woman and hence doubly good for me.


It's how you react and deal with them in the logical and analytical manner that befits a man. You experience them BUT are not governed by them. This is self control and strength.


So correct, in the mean time you will not focus your life around her. See other girls if you like, take up knitting, combat pilates whatever. Treat her like a hobby.


At this point she has not yet PERCEIVED you as the end all and be all of all maledom. For the purpose of attraction her perception is the most important. It's all good thinking you are gods gift to women but she also needs to see you as such. Give her a taste of fettuccini.....


Yes you need to continue escalating physically (pacing and leading not by whining and pushing). You're ultimate goal is to sleep with her. In the minds of normal women you flick a profound switch when this happens, not only that women who are attracted to you expect you to go to next level. This is the normal progression of things. In fact if you take too long in sleeping with her, attraction will decline.


Hell, you already have the kiss closed, she was dancing submissively to you and you were grinding! (s3x on the dance floor). Keep it up, just ramp up the passion next time you kiss her. Yeah be playful and tease her a LITTLE as a means to build ANTICIPATION but you will kiss her at the time of the next available opportunity, not tease her such she has to wait for the third date. You can play around with other kinds of little seduction techniques, like the neck sniff, hair playing etc

Just out of interest if you can kiss well, s3xually tease and build anticipation with it, you can make a women horny enough to want to rip your clothes off and jump your bones. Works for me

In the mean time be cool and rational.

 

[nishbuk]

Okay, wait...So I think I know what you're getting at here.

DON'T tease her...but rather move the physicality WHEN I WANT TO, and pace it and lead her. Show her why the fettucini is GREAT. I will attempt to use these seduction techniques you talk of, when the opportunity presents itself and it's on my terms, even though I've never really heard of them before (I'm a n00b! Remember? Got a link to seduction techniques? EDIT: nevermind, should figured they would be in the bible)

So what you are saying is that sex flips some sort of switch in most women? Like what do you mean? You tell me that's my goal. Are you saying that her attraction to me will increase and change after sex, but it will not happen dramatically before? I know you're not telling me to jump to the end of the race, I can see that. I guess I'm just a bit confused as to exactly what you mean. ty.

-nih.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by nishbuk
So what you are saying is that sex flips some sort of switch in most women? Like what do you mean?

Once you have sex with a woman, she has tasted the fettuccini, and it is good. Her mind switches from coming up with reasons NOT to have sex with you and goes into a mode where she's justifying why she DID have sex with you.

 

[Kaine]

Ok maybe I'm jumping the gun and confusing you with a bit too much detail.

YES you can tease her, but reward her with the kiss ON THE SAME DATE. What I was concerned about judging from your post was that you intend to turn away when she tried to kiss you AND wait for the following date before giving it to her. If she is given you obvious signs that she wants to sleep with you or kiss you, take that opportunity there, take it on the same date, don't delay till the next date.

Teasing is a great technique for building anticipation only if used correctly.

If this is confusing and you are unsure then just take the kiss or the lay!

On another related question:

Why should you be trying to get in her panties asap? Read this post by Blitz and in particular note SEXPDX's response.

fvck her ASAP

I've noticed a bonding phenomena when you bed a normal girl and in my opinion SEXPDX's theory is very compelling.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Kaine
Ok maybe I'm jumping the gun and confusing you with a bit too much detail.

YES you can tease her, but reward her with the kiss ON THE SAME DATE. What I was concerned about judging from your post was that you intend to turn away when she tried to kiss you AND wait for the following date before giving it to her. If she is given you obvious signs that she wants to sleep with you or kiss you, take that opportunity there, take it on the same date, don't delay till the next date.

Teasing is a great technique for building anticipation only if used correctly.

If this is confusing and you are unsure then just take the kiss or the lay!

On another related question:

Why should you be trying to get in her panties asap? Read this post by Blitz and in particular note SEXPDX's response.

fvck her ASAP

I've noticed a bonding phenomena when you bed a normal girl and in my opinion SEXPDX's theory is very compelling.

Okay. Thanks for clarifying. I'll give a read to those things you suggested. Phew...So much to learn, so much more experience to gain...

Also, thanks to Cassa for making that particular point a little more clear to me.

 

[Bonhomme]

Don't push, and keep it smooth

It's certainly a good idea to amp things up sexually, but there's a right and wrong way to do it.

It's hard to describe because it's really an art, and a skill that improves with a bit of experience.

The right way is to work her personal space, use kino skillfully, amp up the attraction, and make her want it. To crib a line from David DeAngelo: two steps forward; one step back. BUT definitely don't push or force things. That is an instant seduction killer. Better to be a bit too laid-back. And teasing a bit is definitely good. That will help make you the one she's addicted to.

Work the vibe, but don't force it. Don't do anything suddenly with a gal you're just getting into it with, keep it smooth. If she pulls back, you pull back more, and definitely keep cool about it. No big deal. If she's into it, keep with the flow.

**********

Don't show any concern about the other guy. Your attitude has to be that you're the better man, but she just doesn't know it yet. No guy who really is the **** is ever concerned about competition.

In addition to that, the other guy obviously isn't interested in her, anyway. Time is on your side. Eventually she'll give up on the cannelloni, and enjoy the fettuchini.

 

[nishbuk]

lol, today I recieve an e-mail from my friend (who is also an aspiring DJ) that says,

Email from my best buddy
Forward from Hank>>Foward from Sara (Hank's sister, my connection to the girl in question)>>

Hank:
lol, wtf??
>
>
>Sara: Tell smear (me) he should call Anna...she's kinda expecting his call...555-4321.

I read this, and I started laughing my ass off. When I was walking down the street I started laughing. I thought it was too funny. I'm probably going to call her tonight, as it's day 4, but I just thought I'd share this with you, and ask your thoughts. LOL.

 

[Kaine]

She's been thinking about you. Play with her.

"Hi X, I wasn't quite sure if I was supposed to call you today or yesterday. I'm still confused about those rule changes. Were you expecting my call today or should I go back in time and call you yesterday?........ I was also talking to my financial advisor and he advised me that due to inflation I should really call after 5 days. What do you think, bad feng shui?"

Fun fun

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Kaine
She's been thinking about you. Play with her.

"Hi X, I wasn't quite sure if I was supposed to call you today or yesterday. I'm still confused about those rule changes. Were you expecting my call today or should I go back in time and call you yesterday?........ I was also talking to my financial advisor and he advised me that due to inflation I should really call after 5 days. What do you think, bad feng shui?"

Fun fun

I know right? I definitely did joke about it. It was pretty funny. Got the date for sat. and then got out. She laughed a bit at my neg hits...one or two, and then she attempted to make small talk, which I would have none of, and I got off the phone in a positive way...
called her, said hello, got date, said bye. nough said.
I've got one other gal to call as well. I've got to generate some more numbers, but I don't have the time!! DAmnable finals.
BTW, that's an intersting question:

I'm going out of town for two weeks for christmas starting the 17th...how will this play into going out with her? I'm not so sure what to do with this. When date one goes well, should I get one more date before I go, or should I just leave it till I get back? Hmmm...

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Do you have a favorite restaurant? I have a restaurant here in town that I really really like. It's a little Italian place, kind of elegant, live music sometimes. I was in love with their cannelloni. It was a piece of heaven.

One day I went to this restaurant and asked for my cannelloni but, alas... they didn't have it that day. I was devestated... well, okay, not really. But I always got the same thing, because I was certain it was the best thing they had. Dejected, I ordered the fettuccini alfredo.

Stuck with second best.

Second choice.

Second place.

They brought out a steaming hot sunken plate of fettuccini alfredo -- not Olive Garden or Fazoli's fetttuccini alfredo, but the real stuff. It was perfect. It was like eating Italian heaven. F*ck cannelloni. THIS was the best thing I had ever had.

Now, whenever I go back to that restaurant, I don't order the cannelloni. I order the fettuccini. Even though I originally thought it was second-best, I tried it and it convinced me that it was WAY beyond the cannelloni.

This is what you must do as well. Her cannelloni isn't available now. So she may get stuck with what she thinks is second choice... the fettuccini -- you. And it's your job to show her that that the fettuccini is WAY better than the cannelloni... that you are WAY better than him. I think you can do it. But don't let the idea that you're "second choice" get in your way. Quite frankly, she doesn't know either of you well enough to know which is the best choice. It's your job to educate her.

Best of luck.

After the first date, It's looking like she chose the fettucini.

But again, no expectations, and take it one step at time. I've still got to get out in the game with other girls as well. Keep my options open for my choosing.

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by nishbuk
...and I'm going to show her why I'm the real deal...

Show yourself why you are the real deal and there will be no need to show it someone else...

You got it, man. Good luck!

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by nishbuk
I'm going out of town for two weeks for christmas starting the 17th...how will this play into going out with her? I'm not so sure what to do with this. When date one goes well, should I get one more date before I go, or should I just leave it till I get back? Hmmm...

My 2 cents:

Have fun during the date and mention what you are going to do and that you will have no time before your trip.

If SHE will ask you out before the trip, think about giving her half an hour (not more than 45 minutes) during your lunch break.

And when you are back: go with full throttle

 

[nishbuk]

Thanks for the reply milkman, but fortunately, that situation worked itself out. She's going out of town on the same day that I am, and she's getting back around the same time. So it's all good.

I'll give a synopsis of the date so you guys can chime in on any mistakes that I might have made.

Eating dinner was fine, but she was obviously reserved, she wasn't 100% there if you know what I mean. After I got her through the initial akwardness of talking we had some real good conversation. We stayed there for about 3 hours, and I talked mostly about her, but I feel one of the mistakes I made was that I talked a bit about how I felt on certain sitautions. Much to my surprise this girl is SUPER insecure. I can't imagine why. Anyway, that led to some conversation topics that are probably a super no-no on first dates, but at least I didn't divulge any information about said topics about myself. I may have given a bit too much info through the entire night...It's HARD to keep the focus on her the entire time!

Anyway, were walking down the street and I busted her walls down. I got her to initiate kino with a hand on mine, and I had her laughing out loud for alot of the walk. Finally I ask her if she wants to go to a club and dance. Enthusiastically, she says yes. We go back to her place, and we pick up some club passes and then head out to get a drink at another bar first (because it's still a bit early), and talk for a bit over drinks. Head to the club, and it's DEAD. Like noone there. Luckily after about 30mins, people show up, and we dance. She's real insecure, so much so, that I'm having to really show her that "I don't give a ****". Literally, I felt like I showed her how mentally strong I really am. We have a decent time dancing. She can't seem to keep her hands to herself while we are dancing. I even said to her jokingly, "Can't keep your hands to yourself, can you? ". And of course, since she's so insecure, she felt bad. lol. Anyway, I played on that for a while, then finally asked her if we could leave.
It's important to note here, that although she really was having a good time, she still felt the need to tell me that she's not sure what she's looking for right now. I get the feeling that she's been through some rough breakups. Anyway, I tell her, straigth up that dating isn't one of my priorities, and that I have alot of other things in my life that I'm trying to accomplish. (This jives with the attitude I was presenting the rest of the night, so she wasn't that surprised).

Anyway, finally we leave the club, and she grabs my hand, and we walk down the street together. Still having a good time, it's about 2am.
We get to her house and she's like, "well, okay..." I kiss her. She's still really reserved, and she gives me this wuss-ass kiss. I believe that we did genuinely connect on the date, and that she did actually like me.
So after she gives me this wuss-ass kiss, I look directly at her, and say, "Now...Kiss me like you MEAN it."
Then she melted. She was totally 100% into this kiss, and we made out for about 2 mins on the street. It was a real good time.
She's like, "Well...are you going to leave", me: "I don't have to..."
So we go up to her apartement, and we make out on the couch.
"She's like, you know you're really cute!" she takes my shirt off, and then she literally says, "Holy ****...now that just pushes it over the edge from cute...to hot"
the night ends with me in her bed, her wrapped around me for the entire night (naked) after some naughty stuff and alot of laughter...(no sex tho...)
The next morning, the mood was still there, and she was still grinning from ear to ear.
I tell her I have to study, and that I got to go,
"Well, when are you going to call me again?" (still smiling)
I'm like, "Why does it matter?" (jokingly)
And she's still being an insecure little girl, and says, "Well, I just don't want to freak out if you don't call".
I simply say,
"Well then, I'm going to have to keep you guessing..."
Kiss her a bit more, and then leave...

It was a weird date. I'm still not sure what's up... but I do think that she's slowly moving in on choosing me (fettucini) over this other dude that she can't have (canelloni).
Thoughts?

 

[milkman]

Originally posted by nishbuk
I'm still not sure what's up...

So, dude, then let me tell you what´s up

We stayed there for about 3 hours, and I talked mostly about her, but I feel one of the mistakes I made was that I talked a bit about how I felt on certain sitautions. [/B]

No mistake. It would be a freaky situation if you would try to talk 3 hours with a girl only about her without exceptions. Mentioning what you feel in certain situations is a good move. Describe it in a way that she can actually feel it too just in the moment. As we all know, girls go for feelings. When she feels with you she will want to be with you (of course not, when she feels with you who act like a Wussie.... but that´s what you are light-years away from referring to your description...).

Originally posted by nishbuk
Much to my surprise this girl is SUPER insecure. I can't imagine why. ... Enthusiastically, she says yes. ...She can't seem to keep her hands to herself while we are dancing. ...Anyway, finally we leave the club, and she grabs my hand... The next morning, the mood was still there, and she was still grinning from ear to ear...

She is as much into you like myofibrils are into a fiber: 100%. Man, you own her

Originally posted by nishbuk
...she still felt the need to tell me that she's not sure what she's looking for right now.

She is on Cloude Seven, how can she look there for something, it´s very nebulously there. She is waiting for you saying her what she is looking for. (Don´t hurry up to do this.... Like you mentioned, you have other options. Women love men with options. If she is really into you, you are a 10, but if she and her best friend are really into you, you are a 100...).

...well, okay..." I kiss her. She's still really reserved, and she gives me this wuss-ass kiss. ...So after she gives me this wuss-ass kiss, I look directly at her, and say, "Now...Kiss me like you MEAN it."

My absolute favourite! Great work, man!! DJs: adapt and enjoy.

Now...Kiss me like you MEAN it. >>> you are cracking me up, man... this is all time best stuff. Thx for sharing.