Advice on a Complicated situation

[sceneparade]

So, not sure where to begin.

A while ago, I met a young woman at a transport company, about 28. Initially, I acted indifferent towards them. I was not unattracted to them, but also not attracted either - at least to start with. I just went about my business, paying little attention to her.

As time went on, I happened to bump into her on passing at the depot. As we approached each other, I just said alright (as I did not care), she responded alright, how are you? I am good, thanks for asking. I ignored her and kept it moving.

Over time, we would politely say hello to each other and keep it moving. On one occasion, in the depot, we were waiting to use the single cubicle toilet. She advised that someone was already using it, to which I left and went into the canteen. After she had used the toilet, and was on her way out, she said bye to other colleagues, but I was out of shot, hidden behind a wall. She appeared to look around and say bye to me. I was on my phone and didn't notice until I caught the back of her turning back round and leaving.

Here is where it gets confusing.

A male friend of hers (who she trained with) found out I was into her, and said he would have my back and put a word in for me. A couple of days later, I then met her outside the depot, to which she looked towards me and raised her hand and said hello before running towards her male friend she has known for a while to hug them.

A week after her friend said he would have my back, her demeanour changed. When she saw me she would double glance upon realising it was me and wave enthusiastically. A couple of days later, I was passing her in a vehicle where she was stationary in traffic. She saw me at the last moment and waved enthusiastically and then locked eyes with me and maintained eye contact for about 3 to 5 seconds before I passed her.

Last Friday, she saw me and looked at me on passing and waved, but not enthusiastically. I ignored it and carried on with my job. I then saw her about an hour later, I was stationery as she passed and she saw me and gave a flirty wave and smiled. Her face also lit up when seeing me.

Yesterday, I saw her and she looked straight ahead, but waved. No enthusiasm, just looked straight ahead. She did this on the return journey when she saw me.

Today, I bumped into her friend again. He promised, and was adamant, he has not said anything to her. He seemed to back track a bit, as in they weren't as friendly as he previously stated. He also commented that maybe she head personal things on her mind, hence her less enthusiasm when seeing me yesterday.

The change in her demeanour doesn't fit right.

There appears to possibilities: firstly, it does not make sense that her demeanour and enthusiasm changed around a week after he said he would put in a word.

OR, at the very beginning when she tried to initiate communication by commenting "alright, how are you. I am good thank you" and making an effort to say goodbye in the canteen, shows interest from the beginning that I missed.

OR, the guy is lying and they are both playing games with me.

Advice please on moving forward.

 

[BPH]

@sceneparade your friend probably did put in a word, but even with her increased interest towards you, you STILL didn't make a move, so naturally she lost interest.

This isn't confusing at all.

You want her? Grow some balls and make a move.

You don't want her? Then you shouldn't care enough to post this novel about her.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sounds like high school playground shenanigans but your all adults

Nothing complicated about any of it , just immaturity

 

[Tiguere]

This reads like it was written by a woman referring to her crush.

 

[sceneparade]

I was trying to figure out why the changes in her behaviour, from possibly thinking I am not responding in the beginning and not interested to her as a result then coming on stronger. Whether her friend is not being truthful and trying to block me or play a game.

Thanks for the advice, anyway.