advice needed

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ok situation is I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 months now. Everything is good normally but occasionally she gets upset if I don't give her something she wants. About two nights ago we went out walking and she showed me a necklace she liked and asked me if I'd buy it for her, I said I thought it was too expensive and no I wouldn't buy it for her. Anyway when we got home she basically stormed off without saying good bye and I didnt hear from her yesterday. I thought her behaviour was pretty rude, one for asking me to buy her a gift and secondly acting the way she did when I didnt. We had something planned for today which I was looking forward to but there has been no communication from her, no apology. I was tempted to cave and contact her regarding our plans for today but that would only reinforce her bad behaviour no ? So how should I deal with this situation ? I like her and most of the time we get on really well.

 

[scrouds]

I would have did what I had planned, without her, and had fun. If I was cruel, I would post up a pic on fuuckupbook.

Right now, set out your ground rules and how you're going to deal with this. Then next time explain how both demanding a gift and storming off is unacceptable to you. If she doesn't offer an apology, I'd make it known that I was expecting one, and we won't be doing anything else until this situation is rectified.

In a way, this is childish behavior, and you must treat her like a child.

 

[BadNews]

Childish behavior is the only way to describe her actions. I find requesting you buy her something to begin with quite off putting. What are you to her? A sugar daddy?

If she doesn't contact you, I would simply make new plans with some buddies and have a good time without her. If she wants to be pissed off about something like this, then let her, and on her own time. Don't let her drag you down.

As for how to deal with her. You could call her and say: "Listen, I understand that you're upset that I wouldn't buy you that necklace. But that doesn't make it alright for you to react this way. I find it extremely rude and disrespectful to request a gift, and then even more disrespectful to become angry with me when I don't buy it for you. We had plans together today, which I was looking forward to, and would have been a lot of fun. It is pretty disappointing that our plans needed to be ruined over something like this. I've made plans with (insert buddies' name here), let me know when you're ready to talk about this reasonably."

Interested to hear how this one turns out. Honestly, that would pretty much be enough for me to give her the axe. 5 months into (scratch that, ANY amount of time into) your relationship and she's basically demanding you purchase her jewelry is pretty lame in my opinion. She sounds like a user. You're only 5 months in, best get out before you get any deeper involved with someone like this.

 

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My buddy was telling me a story about his wife. He's outside the community but a natural and raised old school. They were going to the movies. He reminded her an hour before, said he wants to leave at 6. 6 came, he asked if she was ready, she said 10 minutes, so he said okay, walked out the door and went to the movies.

After that she was always ready 5 minutes before. As the man (not a man, the man) you set expectations and boundaries, and you'll have to enforce them. It is the nature of women to test, and its up to you to set the boundaries.