advice needed!! should I go for it??

[djinhell]

Hi guys,

so I got this chick interested in me, whos 19, shes pretty, but for some reason she doesn't excite me or give me any real desire to wanna hang out with her/date her (i think a big part of this is because shes boring, shes younger, and acts kinda female afc around me)

My questions is, since I am a 23yr old virgin, should I just go for it anyways even though the thought of being with her does not greatly appeal to me atm? Maybe its because ive never had a proper girlfriend, and therefore im subconsciously scared of change!?

anyone been in a similar situation?

I dont get it cos she is hot, but theres something about her which kinda turns me off. (I wouldn't want to use her just for sex, cos shes not that sort of girl)

Cheers

Dj in Hell

 

[COD]

ya having sex with a girl who is hot, young and interested would be totally lame.

WOW ALEX TREBECK can U give this guy a clue!!!!!!!!

Dude most guys kill for an oppurtunity like that........
thats what this forum is for..........sheesh Girl shoves a vagina in your face and U walk away.

hmmm I guess virgin status remains

 

[djinhell]

I get the jist of what you are tryin to say in that reply COD...but was the sarcasm really neccesary?

this forum for me is a place to gather advice, confidence and perspective...none of which you really provided in a helpful way.

 

[CaptainJ]

You should do it just for the sake of gaining experience. If you're not that interested in her, you can still use this as an opportunity to learn and gain experience at dating, relationships and sex. And because you're not that interested is a bonus because it means that if you fvck up at all, you can shurg it off and take it in your stride having learnt a lesson. Get you prepared for future relationships.

 

[Furyguy]

I completely understand the concept of not wanting to get into a relationship with someone you're just not into.

I also understand that you like and respect her and wouldn't want to lead her on simply because you want sex.

Maybe its because ive never had a proper girlfriend

You're probably waiting for someone that actually means something to you, and that really likes you the way you like her, right?

Well, it's been 23 years and it hasn't happened yet bro, you think the odds are good that special someone is going to walk into your life next week?

I don't. I'd say you're throwing your time away waiting for perfection. Hit it now while you can and learn a thing or two about sex and relationships. If it really sucks then just get out of it fast.

(I wouldn't want to use her just for sex, cos shes not that sort of girl)

Listen man, if not you, then someone else. This girl WANTS this from you. If you don't give it to her, someone else will.

(I wouldn't want to use her just for sex, cos shes not that sort of girl)

I repeat, THIS IS WHAT SHE ****ING WANTS FROM YOU!! Do it or let someone else do it, either way it's going to happen.

 

[djinhell]

Thankyou for your replies guys.

Furyguy, what your saying has really hit home, you nailed it on the head! Im waiting for perfection and the perfect relationship like in the movies...it aint happenin for me at the moment, so why should I make it stop me taking this current opportunity and hopefully moving forward!!

Respect!