Okay, I apologize in advance for the long post but this is the only reason I joined this site. I want your advice and I need you to have the whole story.
I enrolled in class a couple of weeks ago, arrive 5 minutes late and enter the room. I'm the only guy there other than the instructor... sweet! I instantly spot her. She's gorgeous. I sit in the empty chair next to her, look directly into her eyes and say hello. The instructor asks me to introduce myself as everyone has just done. I do, making sure to continue directing most of my conversation towards her. The instructor turns to begin the class and I interrupt asking if it's not too much that I be caught up on who everyone is (asking all of this while looking directly at my neighbor) "Uh, sure... no problem."
He turns to the first woman at the table and again I interrupt by offering my hand to my neighbor and saying "and you are?" She looked a little surprised but as she fumbles with her hair I feel she likes the attention. Later, the instructor, calls on me for participation during discussions, he suggests we form the class into a team and assign duties, I suggest that my neighbor with her obvious skill set be put in a "project manager" position while I work closely with her as Producer. We spend the rest of the class working together.
The the two day course goes on much like this. On the last day I ask where she's going for lunch. Sushi. Excellent. I intend it to be just me and her but, I invite a third to come along noticing that this woman is feeling a little left out. Bad move... maybe but, it wasn't worth it to me to hurt this woman's feelings so I took the chance. It went well. Conversation was all over the place. Family, relationships... how to balance career and having children, finding the right man (hmmmmm...)
Everything is going well until I get an emergency call which pulls me away from the last 2 hours of the final day. Without an opportunity to exchange numbers I pull out my business cards and say, "I had a great time but duty calls." My instructor says it was great meeting you and I'll email you with the final details and links to the final project. "Great!" I say while looking directly at her "I'm sure I'll be emailing you all soon."
Next day, I send her an email (edited due to length of post) saying "..I wanted to take a moment to reach out to my classmates and see how things wrapped up... How did things turn out? To be honest, none of that is important as I really wanted to say it was a pleasure to meet you. I meet people easily.. but it is not often I meet one I would like to be a friend (hmmmm... played too safe?) I'd like to keep in touch and catch up over coffee or meet for lunch."
A week later, her response (edited due to length of post): "It was a pleasure to meet you as well. I would be happy to keep in touch and perhaps meet for coffee or lunch. However, I just got out of a relationship and have no desire to pursue anything romantic. I am however very open to making new friends (that may have been very presumptuous of me)" --- those are her words --- Take care.
Alright Don Juans, I have others I'm talking to and do not have much problem meeting women. With this one... I am hoping for more than a fling, booty call or four week romance. I thought of responding by saying something to the effect that, I too am not looking for more than friendship as I am extremely busy with work, hobbies, blah, blah, blah but would drop her a line from time to time to catch up and maybe meet up for that cup 'o Joe. What do you think? How would you continue to play it?
I enrolled in class a couple of weeks ago, arrive 5 minutes late and enter the room. I'm the only guy there other than the instructor... sweet! I instantly spot her. She's gorgeous. I sit in the empty chair next to her, look directly into her eyes and say hello. The instructor asks me to introduce myself as everyone has just done. I do, making sure to continue directing most of my conversation towards her. The instructor turns to begin the class and I interrupt asking if it's not too much that I be caught up on who everyone is (asking all of this while looking directly at my neighbor) "Uh, sure... no problem."
He turns to the first woman at the table and again I interrupt by offering my hand to my neighbor and saying "and you are?" She looked a little surprised but as she fumbles with her hair I feel she likes the attention. Later, the instructor, calls on me for participation during discussions, he suggests we form the class into a team and assign duties, I suggest that my neighbor with her obvious skill set be put in a "project manager" position while I work closely with her as Producer. We spend the rest of the class working together.
The the two day course goes on much like this. On the last day I ask where she's going for lunch. Sushi. Excellent. I intend it to be just me and her but, I invite a third to come along noticing that this woman is feeling a little left out. Bad move... maybe but, it wasn't worth it to me to hurt this woman's feelings so I took the chance. It went well. Conversation was all over the place. Family, relationships... how to balance career and having children, finding the right man (hmmmmm...)
Everything is going well until I get an emergency call which pulls me away from the last 2 hours of the final day. Without an opportunity to exchange numbers I pull out my business cards and say, "I had a great time but duty calls." My instructor says it was great meeting you and I'll email you with the final details and links to the final project. "Great!" I say while looking directly at her "I'm sure I'll be emailing you all soon."
Next day, I send her an email (edited due to length of post) saying "..I wanted to take a moment to reach out to my classmates and see how things wrapped up... How did things turn out? To be honest, none of that is important as I really wanted to say it was a pleasure to meet you. I meet people easily.. but it is not often I meet one I would like to be a friend (hmmmm... played too safe?) I'd like to keep in touch and catch up over coffee or meet for lunch."
A week later, her response (edited due to length of post): "It was a pleasure to meet you as well. I would be happy to keep in touch and perhaps meet for coffee or lunch. However, I just got out of a relationship and have no desire to pursue anything romantic. I am however very open to making new friends (that may have been very presumptuous of me)" --- those are her words --- Take care.
Alright Don Juans, I have others I'm talking to and do not have much problem meeting women. With this one... I am hoping for more than a fling, booty call or four week romance. I thought of responding by saying something to the effect that, I too am not looking for more than friendship as I am extremely busy with work, hobbies, blah, blah, blah but would drop her a line from time to time to catch up and maybe meet up for that cup 'o Joe. What do you think? How would you continue to play it?
