Well to start off one of my managers at works brothers sister started working at the same place as me a few months back... well she took a liking to me and she asked me out so I went along with it and then we ended up dating for 2 months... well on the 1st of the year she broke up with me at work because everyone at work kept bugging her about things... well she started seeing another guy and they broke it off and she hasnt seen anybody since... well we started back talking and going out some then we went silent again for another month and just recently we went out again and she was really glad to see me... for 1 thing im the only person that comes to see her or take her places besides her brother... well I told her I wanted to take her out this week and she was really excited but then I told her it would be Friday and she said she cant because she has a date with a 32 year old cable guy... I was furious but still stayed my normal self talking wise via the net and she said ill talk to u later and I said maybe and she said dont be that way and I said well I might not talk and she said ill make u talk, ill stalk... she joked with me and she tells me at times how much shes misses me but I dunno, im so confused and frustrated...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Advice needed on a girl ive known for awhile...
- Thread starter Ghaleon
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
iHatePants
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Sounds like she's playing you. Also sounds as if your not being assertive enough with her.
MidnightResistance
Senior Don Juan
walk away from this one.
Especially if she's TELLING you she's seeing someone else.
Especially if she's TELLING you she's seeing someone else.
Thats probably a lot of the problem to be honest, im the type that is what they call a "nice guy", I always do and do for people then always get let down...Originally posted by iHatePants
Sounds like she's playing you. Also sounds as if your not being assertive enough with her.
Alen-Delon
Senior Don Juan
time to change that. read Dj Bible.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
belividere
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If you aren't a troll than please go ahead and read the bible.Originally posted by Alen-Delon
time to change that. read Dj Bible.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Anyways my cousins, step-sisters, half brothers, lawyers, in-law heard that Ferris was at the baskin-robbins and had a kidney failure. Everyone should donate $50 to my screen-name so I can get him a donor ASAP.
Do not date a girl for a couple of months, let her break it off to date a new guy, and then let her come back and date her again. Please read the link. All the answers are there whether you realize it or not.
Thanks for the link, good read... and ur right it was stupid of me... the guy she started seeing about 3 weeks after we broke up dumped her for a guy... she doesnt really have any friends besides her cousin about 200 miles away so im the only person that comes around her and she is pretty egotistical and ****y,k she believes shes gorgeous...Originally posted by belividere
If you aren't a troll than please go ahead and read the bible.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
Anyways my cousins, step-sisters, half brothers, lawyers, in-law heard that Ferris was at the baskin-robbins and had a kidney failure. Everyone should donate $50 to my screen-name so I can get him a donor ASAP.
Do not date a girl for a couple of months, let her break it off to date a new guy, and then let her come back and date her again. Please read the link. All the answers are there whether you realize it or not.