Advice needed - met girl from my past wants to drop everything to live with me

[xupc]

Hello all,

I haven't posted in a while but I was always around learning and reading.

I have found myself in a weird situation. Let me first introduce me and the players. As this invlovles me and chinese chicks I should mention that I am NOT Chinese

Me:

• Just recently got my PhD.
• I got tenureship in a very good University.
• I make good money.
• I dress well, I am above averge muscular and I look good (100kg at low bodyfat)
• 29 years old

I am engaged with a hot Chinese girl that really loves me and satisfies me etc all the time. I am her second and by MILES better than her first boyfriend. She is obsessed with me.

Recently when I visited home I met a Chinese chick I was dating 10 years ago. She has kept good contact with my parents and helped my mom when she was really ill with breast cancer. During these 10 years she always tried to contact me etc but I kept turning her down, ignoring her etc. A bit about her

• Loads of boyfriends
• Mainly Chinese guys
• Most of them beta as ****
• She is together now with a guy for 6 months and did not had sex (according to her)
• Logistics director in a big multinational company
• Very bossy with the others. I can handle her but is a struggle to neg her all the time
• 30 years old

Anyway, once she met me she started saying that she loves me, that she is willing to follow me everywhere, and that she will drop her fiancee the same day quit her job sell the car to come stay with me as long as I drop my fiancee. I played cool and decided to string her along. She started messaging me in Viber for a week more or less now and some days she is hot, some other she is cold but she does not show any affection she expect from me to chase her and be an orbiter. I understand that this is classic **** test but I am fed up..

The thing that is weird is that I am in the UK, she is in Greece and soon I will be moving to China for work in Shanghai.. why you think she is activelly chasing me? I think that she realises that she is approaching the wall and that she wants to upgade to a good provider after she rode the **** carousel for a while.. but is she wants that why she is cold and hot, hot and cold during our chats?

Also, whast makes her believe that I will live my hot, young fiancee for her? Hypergamy, delusion and hamstering?

 

[WanderingMan]

I played cool and decided to string her along

why you think she is activelly chasing me?

Why do you think?

IME, if you build a foundation off of games, then your relationship is going to based off games. Therefore - once the dust settles, and you finally do commit - you never know how your relationship is going to end up. Another way to explain it: If you want to see if she's really interested in YOU, then stop ****ing with her emotions (which drives chicks bananas), and be real and truthful - upfront about **** - be yourself.....and see how she reacts to yourself. Don't turn into a beta by any means, but stop the bull**** games. If she loses interest, then you know she was only attracted to your elusiveness and your perceived high status. If you open up a bit - be yourself - stay a little more grounded - and she still has high interest or even higher interest, then go from there and re-evaluate. As a generalization, a "PUA" can get lays - but they have horrible times maintaining LTR's. It's becuase they're all about games and strategies and methods. So once the guy does commit (she finally catches him) - and they end up spending more time together, she will see past the games and methods and eventually see the real him. Which, in a PUA's case, is at times the polar opposite of the guy he was pretending to be.

 

[xupc]

Thank you for the replies.

She messaged me today and I said that I am busy and that we will talk later. She hasnt contact me. If she dont I will not text her. If she does I will say that I took the time to think about "us" and that I decided that we should stay friends.

What you think? I think that this is the best way of handling it without telling her to **** off.