I've been on 3 dates in the past month or so with a girl who I met 2 years ago on facebook and had hung out wiht twice 2 years ago. I havent kissed her or done anything really physical with her beside hugging. I've been nervous around her because I've been socially isolated for the past few months ( and I"ve had a crush on her ), so I've been kind of shy with her, not sexual at all, yet she continues to initiate contact and want to hang out with me (I think shes physically attracted to me). Shes coming over tonight, so I wanted to see if you guys could give me some good advice so that I can turn this around before its too late. Is there potential for sex, and how can I turn it to that?
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Advice needed for 4th date
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idk much but from great DJ Bible, just remember to do action dates. No same old same old Movie-Dinner routine. Do some fun sh!t like mini golf or something.
i would take her for a walk in an outdoor area preferable with a park and a lot of stores. start it off with just putting ur arm around her make her feel close to you. make her laugh have a good time. talk a lot. in the middle try to drop the convo when she reinitiates the convo tell her sshhh and go in for a kiss.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Shes coming to my house today and will probably be in my bed watchin a movie with me. This is kind of make or break time because I've been asexual with her for the most part. 2 years ago I did something creepy, started rubbin her stomach with my fingers awkwardly and she was like umm ure too touchy. I gave up on her but she came been textn me here and there for 2 yrs and askd me to hang out a month ago. This is the 4th date so obviously shes attracted to me, but I absolutely need to make a move. One thing is that I've had about 8 girls that I either couldnt keep an erection for or couldnt find the hole in my past so I'm a little hesitant to try to have sex with her. Any advice on how to keep this whole situation escalating and building attraction?
I'm sorta in the same situation where I've known the girl for a while but I'm thinking I'm in the friendzone cuz I've known her for over a year but she hits me up when she wants me to take her to a movie and sent a text the other day saying she misses me (I'm skeptical about that though)
It simple man, you have to either make it or break it. You have to just go in for the kill and kiss her.
If she rejects you, at least you will know and wont be wasting any more time with her.
Heres a tip: When you are somewhat close to her, look at her like something smells good. Go in and smell her hair and say it smells great. She will kind of laugh nervously or do something awkward.
THAT is your cue that you should go in for the kiss. You're going to have to man up and JUST DO IT.
About 5 months ago i was in a similar situation. I never went in for the kiss and got friend-zoned. You need to be touchy feely but keep it casual.
Hope this helps
If she rejects you, at least you will know and wont be wasting any more time with her.
Heres a tip: When you are somewhat close to her, look at her like something smells good. Go in and smell her hair and say it smells great. She will kind of laugh nervously or do something awkward.
THAT is your cue that you should go in for the kiss. You're going to have to man up and JUST DO IT.
About 5 months ago i was in a similar situation. I never went in for the kiss and got friend-zoned. You need to be touchy feely but keep it casual.
Hope this helps
She came over the other day and we watched a movie on my bed. The movie suckd and there was awkward silence, but eventually I started talking to her and we had a nice litttle vibe and conversation. I didnt really hold her or do anything like I should have. At the end, I tried to kiss her on the cheek but we kind of bumped heads lol so it didnt go so smoothly. She was like let her know when we're going to go out to the movies. I think its obvious she likes me but I just like her soo much that I dont even realy want to have sex with her or be sexual with her. The only reason I really want to have sex with her is to get closer and more intimate, but I dont mind being on a 3 month plan because I really like this girl. I just want to make sure I dont fall into the friendship zone.