Advice needed - Distance relationship with plate

[Bingo-Player]

Met a chick in London last weekend we really hit it off and spent several hours together normally i wouldn't do this as i would get bored and want to go find new options especially in london

But with this one she was interesting and was buying me drinks which i saw as a big green flag

She took me back to her hotel and let me finger her but wouldnt smash as her freind who was married was sleeping next to us ......

Next day she texts me so lovely to meet you yada yada wants too see me again ( not simple because we live 4 1/2 hours apart )

texting continues for 3 days and we are trying to arrange when we can see each other she works in hairdressing / beauty so obviously a busiest time of year for them

my own calendar is full too , she sends me sad faces but we agree the only time we can do it is over Christmas break

texting / flirting continues for another day or so

eventually i tell her its gonna be 30 days before we can see each other we have got to play it cool or we are going to burn the spark out

She agrees with me and i leave it at that

So that was last Tuesday and neither of us have contacted since i presume she's just waiting for me to contact her now , but i really want to avoid mundane small talk

i was going to text her tomorrow and suggest we have a FaceTime call ?

Not sure if i have the balls to leave it another week .....what do you all think ?

 

[Willie Naylor]

She took me back to her hotel and let me finger her but wouldnt smash as her friend who was married was sleeping next to us ......
what do you all think ?

I think men here should spend their time with higher quality women.

What kind of ratchet h0e lets a guy finger her while someone else is sleeping a few feet away?

I'm not attacking you OP, but I think this is why a lot of men have issues with chicks. Go to classier establishments, find higher quality women.

Stop reaching down and picking up whatever you find on the floor. Reach for the shiny apples near the top of the tree.

 

[BDDazza]

Met a chick in London last weekend we really hit it off and spent several hours together normally i wouldn't do this as i would get bored and want to go find new options especially in london

But with this one she was interesting and was buying me drinks which i saw as a big green flag

She took me back to her hotel and let me finger her but wouldnt smash as her freind who was married was sleeping next to us ......

Next day she texts me so lovely to meet you yada yada wants too see me again ( not simple because we live 4 1/2 hours apart )

texting continues for 3 days and we are trying to arrange when we can see each other she works in hairdressing / beauty so obviously a busiest time of year for them

my own calendar is full too , she sends me sad faces but we agree the only time we can do it is over Christmas break

texting / flirting continues for another day or so

eventually i tell her its gonna be 30 days before we can see each other we have got to play it cool or we are going to burn the spark out

She agrees with me and i leave it at that

So that was last Tuesday and neither of us have contacted since i presume she's just waiting for me to contact her now , but i really want to avoid mundane small talk

i was going to text her tomorrow and suggest we have a FaceTime call ?

Not sure if i have the balls to leave it another week .....what do you all think ?

She seems very interested, the fact she invited you back to the hotel and let you finger her and is blowing up your phone to meet is testimony. I believe you have three options, the best option is you find a way to visit her as soon as possible whilst her interest level is still hot because the longer you leave it the more she is going to overthink the situation and get cold feet.

The second best option is you put the ball in her court and ask her to meet you, if her interest level is high she will agree however if she is using you for attention or is lukewarm she will make up an excuse as to why she can't travel to see you. This outcome is good as it weeds out a timewaster. If she does travel 4.5 hours then you know she is down for anything.

The third option is to text her semi-regularly for the next month or so to keep her interest, but you must establish and goal before-hand. Let her know that you have booked an event or entertainment for the end of the month so the texting is leading to that specific date. This is my least favourite option as it allows time for her to change her mind or to lose interest, so prepare for the flake.

Update: OP can you update us on what happened?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Update: OP can you update us on what happened?

So basically we texted for 3 days , had 3 days of silence (instigated by me) probably not the right thing to do looking back but i wanted to remain cool

on day 7 i offered a facetime but could tell she was going cold but still replying fairly frequently

On day 8 i went double or nothing and told her if i hadn't of felt that spark with her i wouldn't still be bothering to contact her

She responded saying she felt the same way and she felt like she connected with me but didn't think she could cope with the distance between us

I respected her honesty and it made me think this girl was definitely one that got away......alas a 540 mile round trip is a lot to ask from anyone let alone a fledgling relationship

Earlier in the conversation she had suggested i come too a place around half way between us over the Christmas break , i may hit her up next week and see if that's still a possibility but at this stage i think it's probably done

A shame but she reminded me there are good girls out there that do still display high interest for the right guy

 

[2Rocky]

Twice I've had ONS's from women 400+ miles from me that I wrote off for continuing in a long distance love affair. Mainly because I already had another regular girl. I did manage to make one LDR work though. Mainly because I was TOO DAMN BUSY to date locally. I'd take a long weekend once a month and go have a girlfriend for 3 days. It shouldn't have worked, but it did.

I think for something like that to work, you gotta have the Full Monty your first time together so she knows what she's getting. Consider it a bedroom audition so to speak. Give her something to look forward to at the end of the month. My theory is I wouldn't date some one I wouldn't sleep with on the First date. Passion comes first...