"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Advice needed - coming out of an LTR (2yrs)

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Afternoon chaps,

Sites like this were a great help when I was trying to get to grips with dating and women a few years ago and now I need some help. I am on the way out of an LTR (2yrs) and will be 36 in a few months time so I have gone from feeling I am in my early 30's (pre-LTR) to feeling I am approaching 40!

Everything's up in the air right now, going to have to find a new place to live etc (we rent a house together) and to be honest, I will probably be happy just being on my own for a bit. The thing is I am starting to be aware of my age a bit more and am worried about where I go from here. It would be nice to just date a few women here and there. Last thing I want is anything serious right now, but it seems women in their 30's enter anything potentially romantic with a long term view on house, marriage, kids etc.

I was never really more than an RAFC anyway so if anyone has any words of wisdom, I would love to hear them.

Thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference."



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silverfox said:
. Last thing I want is anything serious right now, but it seems women in their 30's enter anything potentially romantic with a long term view on house, marriage, kids etc.
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Date younger women !!
 
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Dear SilverFox,
Yes unfortunately A woman over 30 who has always been single feels she is on the shelf....The driving force in her life is to show the World she has what it takes to snare a Man of her own....So desperate do they become and so frightened about letting the child bearing years slip away that if after two years there is no commitment then she will bail out of what is otherwise a good relationship.....My best friend is a Lady with a 32 years old daughter in London,I listen to the Phone conversations during which she will coach this girl in the art of ensnarement....One gem reported to me the other night "......said that.....is all the time annoying her for sex which she can take or leave,but rather have only weekly,so I said to her no big deal,pretend you really like it,then when you have him well and truly hooked you can start wheening him off it".....Warning Sly Fox as you well may be....you are entering dangerous waters,you could get horny and perhaps think of this Bird when on your own,then behave irrationally,get a new FB as soon as possible.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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silverfox

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Thanks Scaramouche.

Over the past few months, the idea of an FB has not sounded as bad as it did before. Someone to see occasionally, go to dinner, scratch each other's "itches" and then do your own thing.

Question - how the hell do you go about creating/locating/recruiting an FB? Sounds like a magic trick to me. :yes:
 
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