Advice Neaded!!

[Jonny_D]

So I like this girl at work and I ask her out on email (so that other coworkers didn't notice and I was afraid to do it on person) saying that I wanted to know her better and that we should do something sometime. She send me an email saying that it sounded great. She gave me her number and said that I could call here on the weekend if I wanted. I did, and ask here out to dinner that night.

So I when on a first date with this girl about 7 o'clock. We went to dinner, stay there for about one hour and a half. We were having drinks with dinner. When the dinner was almost over she ask me what I was going to do after dinner and she said that we should go to a pub. We went there. I think that we spent about 5 hours at the pub talking and drinking.

In between those 5 hour I told her that I liked her, to to my amazement she said she like me too. So we continue talking and I said to her that I wanted to kiss her, so she kiss me! I think it was about 10 second kiss. We actualy kiss a few times at the pub.

So after the pub closes I tell here that I was going to take here home becuase she had to much to drink. (We actually met in our own cars at the restaurant). She agrees, and I drove her home. I walk all the way to her apartment and went in. We then kiss again for sometime. At this point she tells me that she was tired and had to wake up early to go pick up her car before going to a family activity (fathers day). So we kiss good nite and the date was over.

My problem is that I really like her, but becuase of the drinking I don't really know if she likes me or if it was the alcohol talking.

The day after the date I call her and ask if she wanted to do anything. She said that she was tired and just wanted to stay home. So I ask her if she wanted to go out the next weekend and she said it was a posibility.

Do you guys think she likes me? What can I do to see if she really likes me or is atracted to me?

What can I do on the second date if I get one?

Any advice or comment is apreciated.

 

[NRM]

You're coming off as too desperate. Emailing her telling her that you want to get to know her better (basically saying, I like you, I hope you get to know me and like me too), calling her and asking her on a date the same night, taking her to dinner, and then taking her to where she wanted to go, and then ultimately ADMITTING that you like her to her face.

That's a terrible way to start a relationship.

What you should have done was be less desperate, but the girl seemed to respond strangely, maybe she did have high enough of interest in you to go along with it, but you probably really did come off as a desperate guy.

Instead of admitting you like her, you should have just kissed her right then. I understand you were wasted, but you really shouldn't have been on a first date, it's just not such a good idea.

So she kisses you, makes a few decisions, makes all the moves. You didn't come off as much as a man, she's in control of the relationship. Now she doesn't want anything to do with you. And that's okay, because she's in control of the relationship.

I don't think she likes you. Not because of all that, but because when you asked her out, she said she was tired and just wanted to stay home, and then you ask about next weekend and she said it was a possibility. Your approach was all wrong, but even neglecting that, her response showed no interest at all.

Look at it this way, if you were a little tired and wanted to stay home, and the girl that you have crazy high interest in calls you to ask you out, you'd probably be jumping to your feet and heading towards the door half dressed. And even if you didn't, next week wouldn't be a possibility.

She isn't really acting in-role, but you aren't either. You can stick it out and find out, but she has too much control of the relationship right now and it might mean danger for you.

 

[jdr120]

Ah little Jonny....

Jonny,

How old are you??


First off.... You should read the DJ bible before posting that question....

But for the benifit of the doubt, here's some advice..

Where you went wrong...

1) You asked a co-worker out....

2) You were NO CHALLANGE what so ever...

3) You asked to kiss her

4) you asked a co-worker out...



My prediction for the future of Jonny..

- She will give you the LJBF, and will not go out with you again...
- She will tell your co-workers what happend, and they will all know...
- you will have to quit your job (hopefully it is just a part time job)!!!

So my advice...

- Read the bible..
- find a new job!

 

[FratAndDiddy]

coulda been the whiskey, mightve been the gin
coulda been the the 3 or 4 6-paks i dont know

thats a song

hard to tell if she likes ya. she kissed first, which may be a good sign, but i wasnt there to see her movements and her vibes. only you know that.

the day after too soon to call. besides, it was father's day. she probably has some family stuff going on. of course, you knew better than to call a chickie that soon after a first date, right? i thought so.

just be yourself. if she likes ya she likes ya. you havent hid nothing from her or acted out of character.

be creative on the 2nd date, but dont drag your feet about it. tell her this is what we are going to do. of course, you felt her out on a few likes and dislikes of hers for a 2nd date, right?

that many hours drinking can give off false vibes. you may have been taking notes, but will she remember what she said? time will tell that one.

dont move in on a chickie like a pavlov dog. you'll end up with the chain still around your neck. be easy and cool about it. always remember to do the homework and stay one step ahead of them.

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Stop acting like a little puppy dog!

"Do you guys think she likes me?"

Wow, thats original...


Who cares? Maybe she was interested in you, but it does not seem to be the case now does it?... And the reason for it is your attitude! You should be asking yourself "Do I like her?" not "does she like me?"... Thats the wrong mindset!

Read the link below, Because I don't have time for this type of question....




http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip282.htm