Advice/inspiration needed for carrying on

[Herbalicious]

Since what i'm about to write about, I've been reading this website a lot and it's helped me a lot.

i guess i just need some inspiration that not all girls are Ho3s.

Okay so i met this girl in Barcalona at this party, i was in a confident place at this day party on the hills, with good house music and **** loads of beautiful woman around me. It was in the day and I was feeling pretty confident and wanted to chat to every girl around me, I always find it easier in the day? Maybe it just seems less seedy.

Anyway, that's where i bumped into this girl. She was absolutely incredible in the looks department and seemed she was a real nice girl too, we clicked straight away, like petrol on fire. She was from the US doing a year in Barca.
I quickly got her number and then she decided she would stay with us, she wasn't going to stay out but i guess i changed that. Anyway, she stays with us and i end up doing stuff with her on the beach, no sex because she was a 'good christian girl' I respected that and knew i had tomorrow as things were going well, she couldn't keep her hands off of me. All in all i was with her from 9pm till like 6am. The next day i meet her with at about 9ish too and stayed with her till about 5am, it was my last night and we made the most of it. No ****ing sex though, it was in our private room on a ****ing bunk bed, i felt pretty disrespectful on my mates as we had to be up early and would have made way too much noise, pretty sure i should have just taken her down to the beach and banged her. 10/10 head though. Anyway, she pretty much suggests that she wants to see me before i go away travelling, end of this month. I've not really met many girls i get on with this well and it seemed pretty mutual, she was definitely into me right then. I'm pretty sure i played everything right apart from telling her i was really into her and maybe giving too many compliments, we were in bed though on the last night.

So we carry on talking then she goes cold i ask her whats up a few days later. She says she's too busy to talk a lot which is cool but she still wants to see me. So i go about trying to sort this **** out, not ideal i can't call her as it costs her too much and i hate texting! Then she goes cold again, says she is going back to the US after only one term and she's been talking to her ex everyday, she still 'loves him'. So I've been played. I've not shown any real anger or anything too her, but hell yeah i'm ****ing pissed. Luckily i'm going travelling and have plenty of opportunities to hook up with chicks and i will be.

Anyway, words of wisdom would be good and maybe some inspiration. Beat the chump out of me, i'm 22 and still learning a hell of a lot. Ask any questions, it's a pretty interesting story haha.

Barcalona is a great place though with tons of hot woman, Recommend it!

Edit: Advice inspiration needed for carrying on sounds pretty lame. I'm doing good and enjoying life, just a bit pissed off!

 

[TheCWord]

Welcome to the forum. Best advice is to keep hanging out here. Ask questions. Read The Book of Pook. And just know there will ALWAYS be another woman. Especially since you're 22. It's actually great that you're studying game so early - you'll be ahead of a lot of guys.

As you meet and sleep with girls, this stuff just happens, man. Sometimes she's crazy about you and stays that way. Sometimes she crazy about you for a night. Sometimes she goes back to her ex. Sometimes she doesn't. Sometimes you say or do something stupid and she dumps you. Sometimes she goes cold for what seems like no reason at all.

When you date in high numbers, you will experience all these things. It is not a reason to feel down or to start picking up needy behaviour traits, it is actually a reason to do the complete opposite: date more. Screen only for high interest women who won't go cold or are still in love with their exes. It's a numbers game. You have surely already read the #1 piece of advice on here: spin plates. Keep yourself busy with multiple women so that situations like this aren't a drag on you. If one of those women turn out to be right for you long term then you can settle down if that's something you choose to do. But be picky, you'll only settle for the best. That Barcelona girl? She was not the best.

Also as a reminder re: spinning plates - plates doesn't necessarily mean women. Career, hobbies, passions. Just keep yourself busy so that these situations with girls don't disrupt your easy breezy lifestyle.

Good luck.

 

[Herbalicious]

Thanks a lot for being so welcoming and thanks for the good advice, it's just what i needed to hear. Yeah I'm really enjoying reading all of this, it's good to know guys aren't just competitive but also empowering towards each other! :yes:
So i'm going to Thailand for a month (gonna avoid those prozzies and go for western girls and non hooker types haha)and then hitting the backpacker trail on the East Coast of Australia, I want to stay on these forums whilst i'm out there, with all the abundance i'm going to be having and hopefully get some good advice and have some more stories to tell. Anyone have any recommendations with stuff to do in these countries that would be cool!

I've got to a good point in my career and want to take a step back to enjoy life a bit more. I'm feeling pretty good and don't want to let one girl get me down:rockon:.

Yep i know about spinning plates, i find it hard to do in my hometown but come alive when i have a beach and some sunny climes. So i can't wait!

 

[Bingo-Player]

my advice is to toughen the fvck up or women will reduce you to a quivering mess

why do you need to see it as though you have been played ?

in my eyes you met some chick whilst travelling and got some head out of it

who's complaining about that ?

learn how to stop attaching yourself to any woman who shows you an ounce of interest and the world is your oyster

good luck

 

[Herbalicious]

advice taken

 

[Herbalicious]

She's now just found her ex boyfriend who she loved cheated on her just before she went away, i'm not gonna be that shoulder to cry on got my own **** to do. We spoke briefly on it. Putting some distance on it now, wonder if i'll hear back from her again.