"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Advice in LTR (Married)
- Thread starter evertking
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Do activities that get you around the opposite sex. Keep your single game level of physical attractiveness. Do a date night with her. Have some routines and rituals she looks forward to. A few selfish activities outside the house.
Team sport for u that she won't want to join preferably mixed.
Any shared social activity. Meetup groups are good. The hiking and sports ones r normally ok not too many *******s I do badminton with my girlfriend. If she's pretty of course you will get guys hitting on her so what if she's pretty she gets that every time she steps outside of your door. If she ever mentions it just go meh shrug your shoulders and say good luck to him with a confident smile
Pampering. When i m a cohab lter every week I carve out some time for her to take a bath. I buy those ridiculous expensive bath bomb things chicks love get a couple of her favourite magazines get her a glass of wine.
Another easy move visit the neighbours rose garden occasionallyand leave a Rose on a pillow in the morning for when she wakes up just randomly.
And get hold of athol kays books and the book practical psychology for the practical man and start reading a few pages each day
Pm me if u wana read his primer book i have a pdf copy. Also.. listen to the podcast by art of charm where they interview athol kay.
It's not healthy for ltr to be all ways alpha or always beta... they both have positive traits to apply at appropriate moments and they both have traits that can destruct ur marriage or ltr if used inappropriately.
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The things that first attracted her to you could be things that keep her attracted to you.
If you given 100% of your time to her... you may lose your self-identity in the process.
Keep your job/career flowing and do something spontaneous every now and then to keep the mystery alive.
Take a roadtrip somewhere, do something novel that you always want to do someday but never got around to and let her tag along.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.