"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Advice in LTR (Married)
- Thread starter evertking
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Do activities that get you around the opposite sex. Keep your single game level of physical attractiveness. Do a date night with her. Have some routines and rituals she looks forward to. A few selfish activities outside the house.
Team sport for u that she won't want to join preferably mixed.
Any shared social activity. Meetup groups are good. The hiking and sports ones r normally ok not too many *******s I do badminton with my girlfriend. If she's pretty of course you will get guys hitting on her so what if she's pretty she gets that every time she steps outside of your door. If she ever mentions it just go meh shrug your shoulders and say good luck to him with a confident smile
Pampering. When i m a cohab lter every week I carve out some time for her to take a bath. I buy those ridiculous expensive bath bomb things chicks love get a couple of her favourite magazines get her a glass of wine.
Another easy move visit the neighbours rose garden occasionallyand leave a Rose on a pillow in the morning for when she wakes up just randomly.
And get hold of athol kays books and the book practical psychology for the practical man and start reading a few pages each day
Pm me if u wana read his primer book i have a pdf copy. Also.. listen to the podcast by art of charm where they interview athol kay.
It's not healthy for ltr to be all ways alpha or always beta... they both have positive traits to apply at appropriate moments and they both have traits that can destruct ur marriage or ltr if used inappropriately.
Epi
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The things that first attracted her to you could be things that keep her attracted to you.
If you given 100% of your time to her... you may lose your self-identity in the process.
Keep your job/career flowing and do something spontaneous every now and then to keep the mystery alive.
Take a roadtrip somewhere, do something novel that you always want to do someday but never got around to and let her tag along.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.