Advice from sosuave screwed me up! plz read. pissed

[Sowatchasayin]

HavM- my bad 1 month, i edited last post

 

[00Kevin]

one thing I have learned about the DJ bible is that it doesn't explain what to do after you get your girl.

Some place in the dj bible it should have a section that explains the things that you need to continue doing and the additional things you need to do if any.

After a 3 months of going out with my current girl, I had to force myself to recal some of the basic rules

If you want to put things into perspective after you haver your girl then, and I know this may sound wrong, treat a woman like a child. You will have no problems if you do this correctly. After all, you are the provider and the master. In your mind, you just say, "now who is your daddy?"

 

[Sowatchasayin]

Oh, she has done everything i have asked her to do. Every little thing, she would do. There were alot of good memories during our time together, alot more good than bad.

just some of the things she will miss

sex was awesome
i taught her how to ride a sportbike
talked the dealer down so she could buy herself a new car
we went hiking
we went on trips
worked out together
i got her into personal training


bad things - she mentioned a few times of getting a place together - but i quickly changed the subject! (NO)
She spoke about kids - changed the subject again (NO)
and the arguments here and there
I would not do the things she said, once in a while yeah, but mostly no

the good outweigh the bad, so its hard to see how she can drop it so easily, unless she's hiding it, which they all do.

NO IM NOT GOING TO CALL HER. I WILL STILL IGNORE HER FOR YOUR GUYS INFO
i just want to know what you guys think

thanks for the help

 

[Trapspringer]

After 7 months, someone is going to want some sort of closure in the future. Maybe her breakfast invite and garage door opener gift was an attempt at this. Who knows? What I do strongly feel is that this relationship has run its course.
Who gets mad at their boyfriend for not showing up at a gym? I hate to say it but that really sounds silly. I can just hear her complaining about not seeing you on the Stepmaster3000 when she walked into the gym. I wouldn't get addicted to that sort of drama. It will only manifest itself again in other areas of the relationship.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Sowatchasayin
Everything was great up to the point where she got pissed because i didnt show up at the gym. If she did find someone else, she got over me pretty quick overnight

Dude, this whole thing started because you didn't show up at the gym, for good reason, you were injured! How in the heck is this a crime??? And why would she hold it against you??

Didn't your love for her override the fact that you didn't show up at the gym????? This can't be the reason!!!

There is something else that you are not telling us!!! It can't be over such a trivial matter as this - you were injured -for crying out loud!!!!

And yes women get over guys pretty quick when they have another dude!! Her cavalier demeanor about the break-up, tells me that she could have been doing something for weeks/months without you knowing it. Unless you truly and naively believe that this whole thing started because an injured man didn't show up at the gym upon her command!!!

Huh?? This doesn't make sense!!!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

How old are you and she?

 

[dietzcoi]

ALso note for the future:

Don't date "regulars" from your work, gym, ski club, hobby group, etc, etc

This is what happens when you break up... you are very uncomfortable to see her there.

I have learned this lesson the hard way.

And I must agree with PRL and others... why is she SO PISSED that you could not go to the gym? Something else is really wrong here.

My suggestion: Go to your gym, work out, ignore her, and move on.

Dietzcoi

 

[Trance]

Either you missed some things in your story, or either the gym is like 80% of your lifes!! Was it the only ****ing place you two could meet? Why didnt you two went for a simple cofee or something? You guys didnt meet in any other place regularly? Wasnt it normal she'd come by your place or you by her's, go for a movie or something? lol

 

[NatureGuy]

bad things - she mentioned a few times of getting a place together - but i quickly changed the subject!
She spoke about kids - changed the subject again (NO)

She was clearly looking for signs of commitment, and your response did not show that. That makes her react the
way she has. If there's any chance for you
two (and you want it) you need to approach her in a direct way. Otherwise,
why bother with her at all or this post?

 

[Sowatchasayin]

Go to your gym, work out, ignore her!

This is what im currently doing. She is trying to re-establish contact. She is looking for me to apologize for her behavior.
And NO, im not missing anything in my post. She is kinda anal about things and flips out on stupid **** for no reason. Thats why it was a rollercoaster ride. She's 2 faced. Hot and cold. She got all crazy at me because i didnt go to her place one day. She feeds off the attention from me, and when she doesnt have it, she flips out. We spend alot of time together. Hell, we got into a argument a while back and didnt speak for a week, and she came back, but she didnt apologize!

No it wasnt the only place we could meet was the gym. We went out and everything. I went to hers or she came to my place

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Why in the heck do you keep company with women of this attitude and mindset? Do you like the disrespect? Are you lonely? Is there no other women on your side of the pllanet?

Actually I think you guys deserve each other - you are a perfect match!!!

 

[StimulI]

Sorry to vent on you but.....

Here we go...another frustrated AFC blamin' this site for all his problems with ONE muthaf*ckin' chick...I would rather sh*t a brick then to stumble into these AFC post's...

Get a life, dogg