Sowatchasayin
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HavM- my bad 1 month, i edited last post
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Advice from sosuave screwed me up! plz read. pissed
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
one thing I have learned about the DJ bible is that it doesn't explain what to do after you get your girl.
Some place in the dj bible it should have a section that explains the things that you need to continue doing and the additional things you need to do if any.
After a 3 months of going out with my current girl, I had to force myself to recal some of the basic rules
If you want to put things into perspective after you haver your girl then, and I know this may sound wrong, treat a woman like a child. You will have no problems if you do this correctly. After all, you are the provider and the master. In your mind, you just say, "now who is your daddy?"
Some place in the dj bible it should have a section that explains the things that you need to continue doing and the additional things you need to do if any.
After a 3 months of going out with my current girl, I had to force myself to recal some of the basic rules
If you want to put things into perspective after you haver your girl then, and I know this may sound wrong, treat a woman like a child. You will have no problems if you do this correctly. After all, you are the provider and the master. In your mind, you just say, "now who is your daddy?"
Sowatchasayin
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Oh, she has done everything i have asked her to do. Every little thing, she would do. There were alot of good memories during our time together, alot more good than bad.
just some of the things she will miss
sex was awesome
i taught her how to ride a sportbike
talked the dealer down so she could buy herself a new car
we went hiking
we went on trips
worked out together
i got her into personal training
bad things - she mentioned a few times of getting a place together - but i quickly changed the subject! (NO)
She spoke about kids - changed the subject again (NO)
and the arguments here and there
I would not do the things she said, once in a while yeah, but mostly no
the good outweigh the bad, so its hard to see how she can drop it so easily, unless she's hiding it, which they all do.
NO IM NOT GOING TO CALL HER. I WILL STILL IGNORE HER FOR YOUR GUYS INFO
i just want to know what you guys think
thanks for the help
just some of the things she will miss
sex was awesome
i taught her how to ride a sportbike
talked the dealer down so she could buy herself a new car
we went hiking
we went on trips
worked out together
i got her into personal training
bad things - she mentioned a few times of getting a place together - but i quickly changed the subject! (NO)
She spoke about kids - changed the subject again (NO)
and the arguments here and there
I would not do the things she said, once in a while yeah, but mostly no
the good outweigh the bad, so its hard to see how she can drop it so easily, unless she's hiding it, which they all do.
NO IM NOT GOING TO CALL HER. I WILL STILL IGNORE HER FOR YOUR GUYS INFO
i just want to know what you guys think
thanks for the help
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Trapspringer
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After 7 months, someone is going to want some sort of closure in the future. Maybe her breakfast invite and garage door opener gift was an attempt at this. Who knows? What I do strongly feel is that this relationship has run its course.
Who gets mad at their boyfriend for not showing up at a gym? I hate to say it but that really sounds silly. I can just hear her complaining about not seeing you on the Stepmaster3000 when she walked into the gym. I wouldn't get addicted to that sort of drama. It will only manifest itself again in other areas of the relationship.
Who gets mad at their boyfriend for not showing up at a gym? I hate to say it but that really sounds silly. I can just hear her complaining about not seeing you on the Stepmaster3000 when she walked into the gym. I wouldn't get addicted to that sort of drama. It will only manifest itself again in other areas of the relationship.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Dude, this whole thing started because you didn't show up at the gym, for good reason, you were injured! How in the heck is this a crime??? And why would she hold it against you??
Didn't your love for her override the fact that you didn't show up at the gym????? This can't be the reason!!!
There is something else that you are not telling us!!! It can't be over such a trivial matter as this - you were injured -for crying out loud!!!!
And yes women get over guys pretty quick when they have another dude!! Her cavalier demeanor about the break-up, tells me that she could have been doing something for weeks/months without you knowing it. Unless you truly and naively believe that this whole thing started because an injured man didn't show up at the gym upon her command!!!
Huh?? This doesn't make sense!!!
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
PuertoRican_Lover
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How old are you and she?
ALso note for the future:
Don't date "regulars" from your work, gym, ski club, hobby group, etc, etc
This is what happens when you break up... you are very uncomfortable to see her there.
I have learned this lesson the hard way.
And I must agree with PRL and others... why is she SO PISSED that you could not go to the gym? Something else is really wrong here.
My suggestion: Go to your gym, work out, ignore her, and move on.
Dietzcoi
Don't date "regulars" from your work, gym, ski club, hobby group, etc, etc
This is what happens when you break up... you are very uncomfortable to see her there.
I have learned this lesson the hard way.
And I must agree with PRL and others... why is she SO PISSED that you could not go to the gym? Something else is really wrong here.
My suggestion: Go to your gym, work out, ignore her, and move on.
Dietzcoi
Either you missed some things in your story, or either the gym is like 80% of your lifes!! Was it the only ****ing place you two could meet? Why didnt you two went for a simple cofee or something? You guys didnt meet in any other place regularly? Wasnt it normal she'd come by your place or you by her's, go for a movie or something? lol
She was clearly looking for signs of commitment, and your response did not show that. That makes her react the
way she has. If there's any chance for you
two (and you want it) you need to approach her in a direct way. Otherwise,
why bother with her at all or this post?
Sowatchasayin
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Go to your gym, work out, ignore her!
This is what im currently doing. She is trying to re-establish contact. She is looking for me to apologize for her behavior.
And NO, im not missing anything in my post. She is kinda anal about things and flips out on stupid **** for no reason. Thats why it was a rollercoaster ride. She's 2 faced. Hot and cold. She got all crazy at me because i didnt go to her place one day. She feeds off the attention from me, and when she doesnt have it, she flips out. We spend alot of time together. Hell, we got into a argument a while back and didnt speak for a week, and she came back, but she didnt apologize!
No it wasnt the only place we could meet was the gym. We went out and everything. I went to hers or she came to my place
This is what im currently doing. She is trying to re-establish contact. She is looking for me to apologize for her behavior.
And NO, im not missing anything in my post. She is kinda anal about things and flips out on stupid **** for no reason. Thats why it was a rollercoaster ride. She's 2 faced. Hot and cold. She got all crazy at me because i didnt go to her place one day. She feeds off the attention from me, and when she doesnt have it, she flips out. We spend alot of time together. Hell, we got into a argument a while back and didnt speak for a week, and she came back, but she didnt apologize!
No it wasnt the only place we could meet was the gym. We went out and everything. I went to hers or she came to my place
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Why in the heck do you keep company with women of this attitude and mindset? Do you like the disrespect? Are you lonely? Is there no other women on your side of the pllanet?
Actually I think you guys deserve each other - you are a perfect match!!!
Actually I think you guys deserve each other - you are a perfect match!!!
StimulI
Don Juan
Sorry to vent on you but.....
Here we go...another frustrated AFC blamin' this site for all his problems with ONE muthaf*ckin' chick...I would rather sh*t a brick then to stumble into these AFC post's...
Get a life, dogg
Here we go...another frustrated AFC blamin' this site for all his problems with ONE muthaf*ckin' chick...I would rather sh*t a brick then to stumble into these AFC post's...
Get a life, dogg