"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Advice: Friend Moving Countries for his new LTR

slickaz

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so i got this work mate, who joined the company with me, we call him James.
now James is from NZ now living in Sydney.
he's usually pretty cool, we play ball after work and grab lunch and check out chics all the time.
when we go clubbing he's got his game face on and he's always getting numbrs down. it also helps to say that he plays rugby and has his boyish looks and charm overall the ladies in the office say he looks very hot.

BUT

on his last visit to NZ a month ago, James meets a beautiful girl, Hannah.
now Hannah is eurasian.and is very beautiful, i seen pics she is. James is Christian staunchly, Hannah is muslim fanatically he says, like the ones you see at the "save palestine" bs marches etc..

James is taken back by the person Hannah is and has gotten very serious and now wants to leave his amazing job, in Sydney and go back home to be with Hannah.

He says Hannah doesnt want him to move for her, but if he does they can move in with each other and rainbow...he says he has mentioned her moving here to which she agrees somedays and disagrees some but she'll think of moving after her study, 1 yr timeframe..james is impatient.

my advice to him has been:
1. you're moving countries for a girl you've known 2 months.
2. you're leaving an absolute banger of a job here that pays you way to much for your simple mind.
3. future career prospects is hit miss, you may get a job in NZ as good as this but you may not.
4. Shes muslim, you're Christian, you're dead when her cousins,uncles,brothers find out.lol

his answer:
1. i dont have friends or family here except for you.
2. i dont care about career because i know i can find a job in NZ easy.
3. my NZ job may not be as well paying as this, but atleast ill be with my old friends, family and hannah
4. im hoping me and her can sort out the differences..

now i usually give up at this stage but i think he has his pro's and i have my cons about the move. i cant stop him from moving.
but on talkin to him he has said he'll give this job and sydney 6 months to like. if not he is moving back to NZ.

what do you guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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slickaz

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well reason i asked today is because i came in this morning and he was sittin here. at 7am. like wtf you doing this early in?

he's pissed and frustrated coz he spoke to her all night last night apparantly and he's mad he had to end the call.

he tells me he's so keen to just drop everything right now and move back.

now i not hating because i can see he likes this girl alot but ive told him this.

have you thought about smoothly dumpin her??
he says even if he wanted to, he doesnt know how to.

i asked him if he would stay if he had a gf here?
yes!!!! i love sydney.

so obviously he's moving for her, then his friends.

i dunno
 
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