I joined an online dating site and browsed multiple profiles that I liked. One of them actually noticed that I saw her account (the site tells you who views you), looked at me and sent me a flirt. Well, I noticed the flirt when she was online and decided to start an IM conversation with her. The conversation went really well and she seems cute, accomplished, funny, etc so I asked her on a date. Problem is that I was flying out for the weekend to meet family and interview for a job elsewhere. I set up a date with her for next Tuesday night. That's 6 days between when I talked with her and setup the date. I got her number and gave her mine and told her I would call her a night before the date to work out a time with her. Is that too long of a silent period or might that work to my advantage? I've already noticed that she's been back on the site daily since the conversation.
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Advice for timing of online date
- Thread starter DJorBUST
- Start date