"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Advice for stepson in Army

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I have a bonus son who has a decision coming up to either reenlist or get out of the army. Airborne with 18 jumps, never been deployed and stationed in Alaska. Reenlisting for 3 years would likely get him a European assignment in Italy or Germany. He expresses some dismay he has not done a tour in a hostile area.

He is a smart kid. I think he should use his GI bill to pay for his housing and tuition for at least the first 2 years of university. He is worried he "doesn't know what he would like to do" so he might reenlist. Both his parents have 4 year degrees.

@RangerMIke and other Army Vets, any words of wisdom for what another 3 years in the US Army could mean for him?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have a bonus son who has a decision coming up to either reenlist or get out of the army. Airborne with 18 jumps, never been deployed and stationed in Alaska. Reenlisting for 3 years would likely get him a European assignment in Italy or Germany. He expresses some dismay he has not done a tour in a hostile area.

He is a smart kid. I think he should use his GI bill to pay for his housing and tuition for at least the first 2 years of university. He is worried he "doesn't know what he would like to do" so he might reenlist. Both his parents have 4 year degrees.

@RangerMIke and other Army Vets, any words of wisdom for what another 3 years in the US Army could mean for him?
First off, tell him I said thank you for his service. And thanks to other men putting their lives on the line in whatever shape or form for others.

Second, I do not believe the government nor society does enough to assist veterans to plug back into society. The longer he stays in the army the harder it will be down the line. The Army does provide some financial assistance and some other programs (like trade schools), so I would be inclined to advise him to use his GI bill towards starting to plug back into society and do something he can feel fulfillment.

On the other hand, if he has already planned for his future and has a strong financial foundation waiting for him when he gets out, traveling and experiencing the world is never a bad idea. However, I would leave it to other Army vets to provide insight as to what that actually looks like vs what one might expect.


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