"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Advice for stepson in Army

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I have a bonus son who has a decision coming up to either reenlist or get out of the army. Airborne with 18 jumps, never been deployed and stationed in Alaska. Reenlisting for 3 years would likely get him a European assignment in Italy or Germany. He expresses some dismay he has not done a tour in a hostile area.

He is a smart kid. I think he should use his GI bill to pay for his housing and tuition for at least the first 2 years of university. He is worried he "doesn't know what he would like to do" so he might reenlist. Both his parents have 4 year degrees.

@RangerMIke and other Army Vets, any words of wisdom for what another 3 years in the US Army could mean for him?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have a bonus son who has a decision coming up to either reenlist or get out of the army. Airborne with 18 jumps, never been deployed and stationed in Alaska. Reenlisting for 3 years would likely get him a European assignment in Italy or Germany. He expresses some dismay he has not done a tour in a hostile area.

He is a smart kid. I think he should use his GI bill to pay for his housing and tuition for at least the first 2 years of university. He is worried he "doesn't know what he would like to do" so he might reenlist. Both his parents have 4 year degrees.

@RangerMIke and other Army Vets, any words of wisdom for what another 3 years in the US Army could mean for him?
First off, tell him I said thank you for his service. And thanks to other men putting their lives on the line in whatever shape or form for others.

Second, I do not believe the government nor society does enough to assist veterans to plug back into society. The longer he stays in the army the harder it will be down the line. The Army does provide some financial assistance and some other programs (like trade schools), so I would be inclined to advise him to use his GI bill towards starting to plug back into society and do something he can feel fulfillment.

On the other hand, if he has already planned for his future and has a strong financial foundation waiting for him when he gets out, traveling and experiencing the world is never a bad idea. However, I would leave it to other Army vets to provide insight as to what that actually looks like vs what one might expect.


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