Advice, for my upcoming approach

[.PK.]

A little info,

im in my last year highschool, and i have a new "Prospect" to talk to, she's really cute but seems a bit shy. The girls i usually talk to are very energetic and talkative, but this girl might need me to do most of the talking for now until enough comfort is built. I see this girl at party's occasionally through mutual friends, and we always make good eye contact even at school.

My biggest mistake was when i was at a party (it was the end so we were waiting for a ride home) and from the corner of my eye i saw her staring at me, so i looked at her and she didnt even turn away right quick,:cuss: i should have went in...but i didnt, probly because her and my friends were around n i froze.

I am not shy at all, but i do like to keep to myself at times, and with approaching females, i wouldnt say im scared its just that in my head i want everything to work out perfect, even though they all wont. I like to go in knowing some things to talk about because i hate ackward silences :nervous: (haha i guess that my fear). Also i am a very funny guy, and whatever i do say, i can make almost anyone laugh.

***Ok guys enough of that, i now need the advice...

Situation:
i usually see her between classes outside to get to our class, so keep in mind theres not much time to talk as we need to get to class. I also see her around school alot but its not forsure when and where....just randomly.

Temporary approach:

Me: Excuse me, wats your name? (sounding very inquisitive)

Her: Sally-anne

Me: sally-anne?...ok because i see you around alot, and i just wanted to know your name...i could swear u were stalking me or somethin lol. My names PK by the way. (trust me, she notices me...everybody does, im tall and exotic looking)

Her: lol hi PK, ya i see you around too (remember she's quiet might not say much , but then again it seems like she wants me to talk to her so she might)

Me: haha so wat class are you off to blablabla wat teacher blabla

I have nno idea guys please give me some topics to talk about, or openers based on the situation,
thanx, Peace out.

 

[AlexLefty]

Well what I've come to realize lately is that plans are for the most part, BAD. Of course though, I'm talking about the kind of plans where you plan out a conversation exactly, as you did above.
What I've found is they make you waayy too nervous. You'll be rehearsing it in your head minutes before the bell rings, and then you'll start to sweat, and have second thoughts. Just go in there blind folded and see what happens. By this I mean, ask her name, tell her yours, maybe make a small comment about her hair or something and then just take it from there. When you go in there balls to wall with no plan, you really are a lot calmer and as such, are more likely to crack jokes and be your normal self...this..i have found out by experience.

That's my 2 cents, good luck

 

[needstochange]

Never plan out the entire approach in your head like that. You should let the convo flow naturally because having a blueprint for the entire convo will make you nervous as f*ck if it doesn't go the way you planned it.

Usually cold approaches in HS are seen as weird (this can be an opportunity to make you standout if the cold approach goes good, or word can go around quick about your rejection and word will get around quick) so try to find mutual friends who can introduce you two.

Or if you see her at a party again, make eye contact, smile, she should do the same or look away in a shy way, then walk up to her and make convo based on your environment, or just a simple hi and let it flow. Remember to smile and be confident.

Since you've guys already made eye contact before just go up and talk to her, if you wait too long she'll go find some other guy to sex with and you'll be using your tears for lubrication and saying how you could've but never did.

If you want to get over your fear of rejection you could always approach random girls at the mall and get some practice in like I did. You have to battle your fears head on.

I'm still somewhat a beginner so my advice may not be as good compared to people like eaglez777, bongduy, Igetit!, AnalyzeIt, etc.

Hope I helped though.

 

[AlexLefty]

good stuff change
basically what I was trying to say ;p

 

[Captain]

The problem is in the title: "advice, for my upcoming" approach.

Planning is bad. Stumbling through and improvising is always better than a routine.