"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Advice for getting over my ex?

Back Nine Hero

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Hey guys,

I'm in a bit of a jam here, and this site looks like it's got some people that can help. I got dumped by my ex a few months ago and cannot stop thinking about her. We were together for just over a year and it was the best thing I ever had. I think of her almost every day and it's getting in the way of more important things like work. It's like the memory of her is ****ing haunting me or something.

Any advice for moving on?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Play the Game

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Go to the gym, and keep busy. Talk to other women...and try to focus on your life.
Other than, there's no magic pill to get over one-itis, you just have to man up and stay tough.

Good luck, and remember it will pass with time.
 

Play the Game

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Oh and if you get those haunting memories, force yourself to think about something else no matter how hard it seems.
 

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Thanks for the advice, but I wish it were that easy. I don't have much free time outside of work and that time is usually spent preparing for when I have to go back to work. I'm living like a ****ing hermit.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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nice, keep busy mate, and find someone new, also keep the world spinning around you not them. took me about 3 weeks to get over it, was gonna turn to alcohol for relief but at the end i went to the gym and pump weights and keep my 6 pack alive :) what ever you do DONT LISTEN TO LOVE or SAD MUSIC, do something to bring your mood to another level.
 

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I'm pretty sure my post in the link that Savage posted is more than enough to help you get over your ex. ;)

Hope I helped.
 

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men this is a very difficult one to read 50 dollar charge.men you are not ready cause you did not tell us what happened.why did she dumped you,don't be shy say what happen.for that man no advice for the moving,next caller pls
 

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I would go with what most of the guys on this thread advises...

Get on with your life. Find a hobby. Meet other people. However, DON'T be needy!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jimmyjack said:
men this is a very difficult one to read 50 dollar charge.men you are not ready cause you did not tell us what happened.why did she dumped you,don't be shy say what happen.for that man no advice for the moving,next caller pls
She slept with another dude while she was with me. I later found out and confronted her about it. She was super apologetic, cried, and all that jazz, so I figured everyone is entitled to a **** up and forgave her since everything was good up till then. Bad idea. I was a paranoid ******* after that and she couldn't handle it, so she broke it off.

You know... I messed up big time, but she ****ing tore my heart out. Thanks for the support guys.
 

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lol it was her who cheated on you, she didn't respect you, im going to sound blunt here but eventually you will get over, you have just been hurt and disrespected, these things take time and you need to go through the healing process fully, you can see you were wrong to forgive, remember she is not good enough for you if she slept with another guy you have no done anything wrong, she is the one who made you paranoid and the one who couldnt handle it, healing your wounds takes as long as it needs to take, eventually you will go out and meet more women
 

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1. Self improvement, have a goal, look at your career, do a course, do things for YOU!

2. Make a list of things you DIDN'T like about her.

3. Now picture your dream girl, bet it's not her anymore.
 
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