Speeddawg,
You are right. I have fallen flat on my face in this new relationship. I went form super-single - spinning plates like crazy this past summer, to slowing down, to get to know one sexy plate that stood out - her.
In that time, some of her shyt tests, and ex-BF stuff, past history, etc. have really phucked with my head game i.e. my confidence level. It sucks. I am working on building it back up.
Right now we are taking a break in how often we see each other (she has her place and I have mine). She likes a man to lead, to lead in the relationship, to lead in sex, etc. Yet, she is very independent women on her own and how she carries herself, etc. It’s almost contradicting in ways.
This aspect has messed with my head. And believe me gentleman...I was feeling good strong: physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc. I didn’t expect myself to be affected negatively in a matter of three or four months in a committed LTR.
She is one year older then me and has had her share of relationships. She has past LTR's that have turned out to be bad experiences and some become friends. Like most, she is either friends with them or she is not, my count - with out prying, is she is about 60% not friends and 35% friends 5% are like the AFC persistent fool.
Since taking a break, when I am with her, it feels like we are a strong solid couple who we are both now know what caused are ups and downs and it is in the past. We spend our time ravishing each other - doing fun things, relaxing, eating good food, reading, gym, great professional advice for our jobs, etc.
It just started off good, then a few bumps, some shyt tests and past/ex-AFC stuff messes with my head. I feel like she is seeing what my reaction will be, and that she may lose interest if it is a week AFC response. So it's time for me to move forward on this, as the past it the past and I need to just ignore the ex calling. Note even ask about it.
You are right. I have fallen flat on my face in this new relationship. I went form super-single - spinning plates like crazy this past summer, to slowing down, to get to know one sexy plate that stood out - her.
In that time, some of her shyt tests, and ex-BF stuff, past history, etc. have really phucked with my head game i.e. my confidence level. It sucks. I am working on building it back up.
Right now we are taking a break in how often we see each other (she has her place and I have mine). She likes a man to lead, to lead in the relationship, to lead in sex, etc. Yet, she is very independent women on her own and how she carries herself, etc. It’s almost contradicting in ways.
This aspect has messed with my head. And believe me gentleman...I was feeling good strong: physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc. I didn’t expect myself to be affected negatively in a matter of three or four months in a committed LTR.
She is one year older then me and has had her share of relationships. She has past LTR's that have turned out to be bad experiences and some become friends. Like most, she is either friends with them or she is not, my count - with out prying, is she is about 60% not friends and 35% friends 5% are like the AFC persistent fool.
Since taking a break, when I am with her, it feels like we are a strong solid couple who we are both now know what caused are ups and downs and it is in the past. We spend our time ravishing each other - doing fun things, relaxing, eating good food, reading, gym, great professional advice for our jobs, etc.
It just started off good, then a few bumps, some shyt tests and past/ex-AFC stuff messes with my head. I feel like she is seeing what my reaction will be, and that she may lose interest if it is a week AFC response. So it's time for me to move forward on this, as the past it the past and I need to just ignore the ex calling. Note even ask about it.
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