Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I've gotta disagree. If you go through his mastery or advanced series, it starts off what is seemingly slow, but after I got my DJ mindset down pat and **** and I went back just to see what he was talking about, he's talking more than just about women. He's talking about getting life handled, its hard to listen when you are only in it for techniques and ****, but once you get past that and really listen to what's being said, it takes on a whole new meaning.rocco said:too scientific, not practical, geeks that lack field experience imho. i just listened to the first 5 minutes of his inner game dvd set, and was bored to tears, i thought i was in one of my biology class lectures.
I have to respectfully disagree. C/F worked well for me with women who were 22-35 years old, but didn't work very well on the 18-21 year olds.****y and Funny is the basic program for high school and college kids.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
rocco said:too scientific, not practical, geeks that lack field experience imho. i just listened to the first 5 minutes of his inner game dvd set, and was bored to tears, i thought i was in one of my biology class lectures.
A-Unit that was a great synopsis of David D's material.A-Unit said:His original stuff was money. Truly. It was much the same as the foundations of SoSuave.
He bought self-help/self-improvement programs, NLP, genetics, sperm wars, sex books, tantra, and the list goes on, and then summarized it into one system for the guy to easily pick up. Even his lisp isn't bad to listen to on the original CD's. He brings together what he learned through reading, into one system, so the guy wouldn't have to buy ALL the books he bought, go through ALL the failures he went through, and use ALL the experience David D.
It was the first system I bought, and I believe the last. I did buy the books he suggested, and read them through often. It helps to ingrain much of what does yield success.
His more recent popularity pushed him to create products that aren't as IMPACTFUL as his first system. Which makes sense, rarely are sequels as great as the first. His widespread popularity with "geeks" in his videos discredits him somewhat, but what else do you think is the target market for such products? It certainly wouldn't be PORN STUDS. If you can find the 1st free or discounted, it's worth hearing it.
****y and Funny is the basic program for high school and college kids. There should be a supplementary system showing his evolution as PUA, and not going down the rabbit hole of MORE C&F. For the evolved man, who will try to lay 25 year olds, or older, you need Charming and Aggressive, or some similar-type program.
There is a decided difference btw the mentality of a 25 yr and a 20 yr old, also her "mood" depends on her settings. Some girls who are 30 will respond well to C&F in a bar, during a holiday event, a party, or similar lax circumstances. Whereas, if you meet a semi-professional woman in a professional atmosphere, and you come across immature, then you're likely to blow totally up. Poker is a great hobby at discerning different thoughts and situations.
A-Unit
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The body hair I don't know about, washing yourself two times a day is just good for you. You really complain about someone telling you to be clean?DanelMadr said:I have my doubts about his stuff too. 1) in DYD he advices to lose all body hair, wash yourself two times and all that metrosexual c*ap 2) ****y and funny is a bad terminology....Confident and Playful is more precise 3) You get pretty good results with C&F but it is not enough for long term goals - thats why he focuses on Inner game now.
It's not bad but it's not a Bible.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.