"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Advice: Dont be a ***** and get a life.

S.Y.L

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I've tried a few different approaches to getting girls, and the one which I've used recently works way better. Examples, like, when I'm talking

1. I use to: Say, yah i dont do much really, hang out somtimes. And not mention stuff I do
2. Now: Yeah, I play hockey, rugby, mma, wrestling and i work out.

2 works so much better, gets girls more interested, and appears that you have a life.

Another thing I've tried, is instead of waiting for her to talk to me, and never approaching girls I don't know well, I just go up and say, "hey whats up" or somthing.

Also, appears to girls, your not scared of them. Works.


Basically, don't be a complete idiot, make sure you have a life, and dont think that you need a gf to make your life "all that much better and complete it". The Girlfriends just the icing on top of the cake.

And don't be afraid to ask her questions, girls like to say stuff about themselves, believe it or not. But, don't ramble on about nothing randomly forever, girls don't really like that.

One example, of what not to do, is this girl I liked about a year ago, I talked to her on facebook every day for hours, never in person, even though she sat right near me in class. What happened, I didn't talk to her in person, and she liked me even, If I talked to her in person, even just a bit more, and didn't act scared, I could have asked her out, and she would have said yes. But no, she got bored, and obviously thought it was going nowhere. Whats she do, we stop talking, things get awkward, and she goes out with some guy a few months later.

^^^^^^DO NOT do that. Thats about as bad as it gets.

Also.
Do not be scared. Number 1 tip. Just go with it, if your not exceptionally weird, just an average guy, and you talk to a girl, out of random with a bit of DJ skills, they will like you.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so basically what you are doing is telling the majority of "no life nerds" that dwell on these forums that they should pretend that they do something apart from World of Warcraft?

thats not really advice man.

better advice:
Stop wasting your time!
Time flies, but its up to you to be the navigator!
get out there, and gain skills, learn new things!

Personally at the end of the week, if i havent done anything productive with myself (martial arts, basketball, etc.). I actually feel like ive failed myself.
We dont have that long to live! Get out there!
 

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AlexParadox said:
better advice:
Stop wasting your time!
Time flies, but its up to you to be the navigator!
get out there, and gain skills, learn new things!
i don't know man, i found what the OP wrote was a lot more helpful than that... it's just that the 'stop wasting time' and 'get out there' stuff is really quite vague, and i've heard it only about a few thousand times. it was nice to see some practical scenarios linked with the appropriate advice.
 

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if you are planning to be friends with a girl you txt her on her cell or myspace/facebook, if you want to be her lover you talk to her in person.

talking online is a fast way to become a friend not a lover. Sure it can help you organize a date but after that if you want a relationship keep the talk online to a minimum or fall into the friend zone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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f283000 said:
if you are planning to be friends with a girl you txt her on her cell or myspace/facebook, if you want to be her lover you talk to her in person.

talking online is a fast way to become a friend not a lover. Sure it can help you organize a date but after that if you want a relationship keep the talk online to a minimum or fall into the friend zone.
Definately.
 
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