The Duke
Master Don Juan
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My exwife's brother is getting married next spring and has asked me to be in his wedding. I agreed. Since then I met a pretty solid chic I've been with for about 7months now. We are in a committed long term relationship. I've been there done that, I've pursued enough women in my life that I've got a good clue of what I have and don't want to ruin it.
I haven't told my gf that I am going to be in this wedding. I am sure it will be a schitt storm when I do.
:yes: Her and I had the talk about not communicating with our exes etc. The reason for me being in this wedding is my ex-brother-inlaw always looked up to me like a brother and I promised him I'd do this a long time ago. His family always did a lot for me as well and I feel like this is a way of giving a final thanks and closing a chapter of our lives. It has nothing to do with my ex wife.
I just dropped the bomb on my gf the other day about I don't want to ever get married. That was a miniature war that lasted a day, but when the dust settled she respected my wishes. I told her if she didn't like it she could leave and would never be welcome again. She stayed.
I doubt she'll understand my wishes for wanting to be in this wedding. Women just don't relate well to those types of reasons. Has anybody crosses this bridge before? I know I need to set the frame right from the start when I bring this topic up. Got any ideas.
On a side note, she has a motorcycle that she financed for an exboyfriend that isn't paid off yet. Its supposed to be paid off this month. Whenever she accuses me of having relations with my ex I remind her of this. You know how that goes. Typical female won't admit it her own fallacies but deep down she knows.
I haven't told my gf that I am going to be in this wedding. I am sure it will be a schitt storm when I do.
:yes: Her and I had the talk about not communicating with our exes etc. The reason for me being in this wedding is my ex-brother-inlaw always looked up to me like a brother and I promised him I'd do this a long time ago. His family always did a lot for me as well and I feel like this is a way of giving a final thanks and closing a chapter of our lives. It has nothing to do with my ex wife. I just dropped the bomb on my gf the other day about I don't want to ever get married. That was a miniature war that lasted a day, but when the dust settled she respected my wishes. I told her if she didn't like it she could leave and would never be welcome again. She stayed.
I doubt she'll understand my wishes for wanting to be in this wedding. Women just don't relate well to those types of reasons. Has anybody crosses this bridge before? I know I need to set the frame right from the start when I bring this topic up. Got any ideas.
On a side note, she has a motorcycle that she financed for an exboyfriend that isn't paid off yet. Its supposed to be paid off this month. Whenever she accuses me of having relations with my ex I remind her of this. You know how that goes. Typical female won't admit it her own fallacies but deep down she knows.
