‘She has said that I make more, so I should cover the extras, and yet my monthly expenses are far less than hers.’
finance.yahoo.com
I can’t read the article but I work on the basis that you should have similar amounts to save each month.
I didn’t operate this way with my first wife as we didn’t have kids. Once a woman has borne you a child, I work on the 50/50 principle. Marriage is sharing, essentially. If you want to remain significantly wealthier you will get hammered harder in a divorce - plus,you incentivise the divorce.
I want a happy and solvent wife. I don’t need much stuff personally.
the better off I make my wife, the more I guarantee the survival of our family, a stable home for our kids.
now, this is because I earn more. If we earn the same we go 50/50 but I earn 4x what my wife earns. If you don’t want to share, don’t get married as eventually it will get to 50/50.
if you are both wealthy at the divorce you have less to lose. Plus if you work to make your spouse wealthy she has less reason to shaft you.
I can imagine a host of “beta provider” comments but it’s just called being the dad.
I don’t pay for luxuries and shyt but I pay the bills. Her money is her own and often she’ll spend it on me or the daughter.
would I pay off her debts? I prefer to cover the living costs and just say it’s up to her how she spends her money.
again, blue pill but the reality is, when she was taking 2 years off work with the pregnancy and young kid, she lost ground in career. This is the trad husband deal. You cant have your cake and eat it.