advice column: I May Have Lied to My Boyfriend About My Real Relationship With My Best Friend

[MatureDJ]

I May Have Lied to My Boyfriend About My Real Relationship With My Best Friend

Do I need to come clean?

slate.com

I’m a 29-year-old woman with a 29-year-old straight male best friend who lives in another state. “Billy” and I became friends back in undergrad nearly 12 years ago. We clicked and just got each other. We had a falling out a few years later, but reconnected three years ago. We can read each other and are brutally honest with each other. Billy can get a bit protective of me and needy, especially when he visits, since we don’t get to see each other but a handful of times a year.

I’m currently dating an early 30s man whom I’ve fallen for very quickly. We live about 90 minutes apart but spend every second we can together. However, I lied to him fairly early on. After telling him Billy was my best friend, he asked if Billy and I had previously had sex. I said no, but previously Billy and I had a friends-with-benefits period in undergrad that lasted three weeks. After we reconnected, which was as I was breaking up with a boyfriend, I used Billy as a rebound for a couple days. That was back in 2018. Nothing sexual has happened between him and me since.

my opinion: Billy is the Beta-in-Waiting that is always there to access when a Chad is not in the picture; at least he seems to get some FWB action from time to time. In any case, never trust a woman who has a good "friend" that is heterosexual.