advice column: Help! I Think My Partner Is an Actual “Creepy Old Man.”

"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan

Aug 19, 2023

Help! I Think My Partner Is an Actual “Creepy Old Man.”

And he doesn’t seem to care.

slate.com

My partner of nearly 8 years (who’s 61) ogles young women half or more than half his age—sometimes doing a double-take or looking them up and down. It’s obvious, embarrassing, and disrespectful. He presents as a “dirty old man” or “creeper,” as young girls often call men that do the same. I’ve told him several times his actions are lewd, but he doesn’t change. Should I tolerate his tongue-hanging-out behavior or find a more respectful man?

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.