advice column: Help! I Think My Partner Is an Actual “Creepy Old Man.”

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan

Aug 19, 2023

Help! I Think My Partner Is an Actual “Creepy Old Man.”

And he doesn’t seem to care.

slate.com

My partner of nearly 8 years (who’s 61) ogles young women half or more than half his age—sometimes doing a double-take or looking them up and down. It’s obvious, embarrassing, and disrespectful. He presents as a “dirty old man” or “creeper,” as young girls often call men that do the same. I’ve told him several times his actions are lewd, but he doesn’t change. Should I tolerate his tongue-hanging-out behavior or find a more respectful man?

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.