"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Advice and suggestions more than welcome!

Montybelko

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Hey guys hopefully some of you can give me some advice on this.

Here's a little backstory.

Basically just got out of a LTR bout three months ago. My fiance broke up with me pretty out of the blue and I was extremely devastated.

There is this girl at work who even a while back I always in the back of my mind thought perhaps had a crush on me. Anyways you know she was really cool when this **** went down and we started hanging out with a few other co workers now and again. All casual, hanging out at her place having some beers etc.....

I found myself starting to like her quite a bit so I was like **** it and up and asked her out. She basically rejected me and apologized etc. etc and I was like whatever no hard feelings. So I backed off a bit, made sure not to get emo or anything about it cause **** happens.

About two weeks ago she asked me to watch T.V at her place so I went over and did. Somewhere along the line she started talking about sex and her lackthereof and the conversation turned into her straight out saying she's had a crush on me for a while, that she likes me but she is afraid, doesn't want to be just a rebound.

Now, in retrospect that was a perfect opening for me. I know now what I should have done in that moment but it's passed to alas. She also asked me 'when we were going to go on that date!'

I feel like we are in this bizarre little dance at the moment she has said she's into me, I'm definitely in to her.....I don't want to just do a cliche dinner and movie and I have been trying not to come on too too strong..I don't want to seem desperate. But I also realize I can't wait forever and I'm just kinda feelin up against the wall and could use some help!

Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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stayfly

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hurry up and bang her man

take her out and do something YOU enjoy, then make ur way back to ur place and seal the deal.
 

Allurre

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stayfly is right on the money.

Bro, she is already suggesting that she's all for you.

Just take her out for some action date, have fun, get some drinks together, talk, head back to her place, and destroy that bed.
 

Montybelko

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Yea you guys are bang on for sure. I finally got up the nerve to ask her out on something concrete today at work. We're going to a comedy club on Wednesday....figured it's a bit more fun, and definitely more unique than the cliche dinner and a movie combo!
 
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