"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Adone.. if I told you how many drugs male strippers took you'd be amazed (and disgusted).

Forget looking 'like someone'. Just aim to better yourself.

And sorry, five inches on your waist is NOT five inches of muscle. You've gotten fat. And if you're getting fat at 150lbs you're doing something wrong man ..

And I know what: you're under-eating.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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post a picture of yourself. or PM me a link if you don't want it on public display.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
Adone.. if I told you how many drugs male strippers took you'd be amazed (and disgusted).

Forget looking 'like someone'. Just aim to better yourself.

And sorry, five inches on your waist is NOT five inches of muscle. You've gotten fat. And if you're getting fat at 150lbs you're doing something wrong man ..

And I know what: you're under-eating.

I'm pretty sure that fat is just a really small percentage of it, since I've lost 1 of those 5 inches in the last couple of weeks and now I can clearly see my abs when I flex them. Plus, I don't get how undereating and getting fat can be related?!

P.S.: I'm looking for a pic of mine, so I'll soon send you the link to it
 

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Adone said:
Plus, I don't get how undereating and getting fat can be related?!
over-eating then under-eating is the prime reason for staying fat (and getting fatter)
 

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Warboss Alex said:
over-eating then under-eating is the prime reason for staying fat (and getting fatter)

Is that actually true? I had read something similar somewhere, but I thought it was just bullshìt. How that works exactly, if you care to explain? Unfortunately, in my school, biology is often overlooked and all I know about human body comes from bodybuilding.

In a few minutes, I'm going to do day 3 of the workout you suggested. Unluckily, Sunday I will go on a school trip and then I'll go away for another 7days. Basically, I won't be able to work out for 2 weeks, so from today to saturday I want to push myself a bit harder than I should.

Tomorrow evening I have to play another soccer match (it should be an easy one, though), do you suggest working out my legs tomorrow in the afternoon or saturday afternoon?

I'm gonna eat something now, so I don't get hungry and you don't get angry;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It is not as black and white as calories in vs calories out. Yes, the maths determine how much weight you gain/lose but not what kind of weight.

If you're fat and under-eat too much your body is going to think it's starving and not dare burn any fat.. it'll store more food as bodyfat because of this starvation mode and burn protein (muscle) for energy via gluceogenesis.

that's why people who go on a water-and-salad diet and do 3 hours of cardio never look any better.. just smaller and scrawnier.

the number of people (including myself) who've tried to lose weight and failed because they weren't eating ENOUGH.. is amazing.
 

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March 30th Workout

Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 40lbs x 6; 44lbs x 6;
Barbell Decline Bench Press: 99lbs x 6; 117lbs x 6;
Skullcrashers: 35lbs x 15; 40lbs x 15;
Military Presses: 90lbs x 10;
 

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April 18th Workout

Barbell Deadlifts: 99lbs x 6; 99lbs x 6;
Barbell Bent-Over Rows: 99lbs x 10; 9 9lbs x 10;
Barbell Bicep Curls: 55lbs x 10;
 
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I honestly don't know how what you deadlift and what you row are the same weight. Your deadlift should be triple (if not double). And how can your military press only be 9lbs lighter then the 2 mentioned exercises?
 
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[S]alvatore said:
I honestly don't know how what you deadlift and what you row are the same weight. Your deadlift should be triple (if not double). And how can your military press only be 9lbs lighter then the 2 mentioned exercises?

I know it sounds pretty fùcked up, but lookwise, the only parts of my body that are out of proportion are my calves (too small) and my upper arms (too big, expecially the triceps).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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April 19th Workout

Barbell Flat Bench Press: 110lbs x 6; 110lbs x 6;
Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 35lbs x 6; 40lbs x 6;
Dumbell Pullovers: 40lbs x 15; 40lbs x 15;
Military Presses: 90lbs x 9;
 

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April 20th Workout

Squats: 121lbs x 6; 134lbs x 6; 99lbs x 20;
Calf Raises: 99lbs x 25; 112lbs x 25;
 

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55lbs on bis and only 40lbs on skullcrushers?
does that seem out of proportion to anyone?
 

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April 23th Workout

Barbell Deadlifts: 103lbs x 6; 103lbs x 6;
Barbell Bent-Over Rows: 103lbs x 10; 103lbs x 10;
Barbell Bicep Curls: 59lbs x 10;
 

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April 24th Workout

Barbell Flat Bench Press: 121lbs x 6; 121lbs x 6;
Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 44lbs x 6; 44lbs x 6;
Military Presses: 90lbs x 10;
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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April 25th Workout

Squats: 125lbs x 6; 139lbs x 6; 103lbs x 8 (wimped out, I feel pretty lazy today)
 

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April 26th Workout

Barbell Deadlifts: 108lbs x 6; 108lbs x 6;
Barbell Bent-Over Rows: 108lbs x 10; 108lbs x 10;
Barbell Bicep Curls: 68lbs x 8;
 

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April 27th Workout

Barbell Flat Bench Press: 125lbs x 6; 125lbs x 6;
Dumbell Incline Bench Press: 48lbs x 6; 48lbs x 6;
Military Presses: 92lbs x 9;
 

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Adone said:
Squats: 125lbs x 6; 139lbs x 6; 103lbs x 8 (wimped out, I feel pretty lazy today)
Of course you're feeling sluggish.

Doing squat the day after deadlifts? You've got to be joking!

You're chronically overtrained.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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