Hello guys. First time caller, long time listener.
Over the last two years, I've gone hard improving myself. I run regularly, lift weights and have gotten in better shape than I was in HS (I'm 35, BTW). I've improved my income, bought a vastly better wardrobe and focus on going out more.
In the last few months, something very strange has happened.
First off, women stopped hitting on me altogether. I used to get a decent amount of attention from chicks in the SMV 5-7 range. Heck, I even had a few buy me a drink.
Second, when I approach, I have to aim for the highest SMV chick around. If I'm not going for the very hottest chick, everyone seems to notice. The 5-7 range women now look at me like I am up to something. If I do get some play, every woman in the place starts giving her the evil eye.
Third, I seem to be having real trouble calibrating my escalation with these hotter women. I've spent a lot of effort on knocking out social game and comfort. Here's the thing . . . If I spend too much time developing comfort, the hot chick just loses interest. Anything more than 20 minutes before I start groping and grinding seems to be an utter disappointment to women now. On the other hand, if I just go in like a completely non-verbal ape, things go perfect.
Fourth, women have started doing some really aggressive **** toward me if I ignore them. I've had three different chicks in the last six months outright shove me. They didn't even try chatting me up. They just went right for a shove, completely unprovoked! I'm not talking a nudge. I'm talking a heavy shove that left a red mark on my chest. One chick I ignored made a point of driving past me and yelling at me that I could have "had this" after everyone was outside the bar. I've had several ask me if I was gay!
Finally, I've tried to recalibrate and escalate my game. And there seems to be no actual limit to what I can now get away with. An example . . . Satruday night I was leaving the club on foot. I was pretty drunk. And there was a chick ahead of me a block in a poorly lit area by herself. So, I decided to approach her. From behind. In the dark. Quickly. She's a high 7. Here's the thing . . . I laughed it off and apologized to her AND IT WORKED. We start getting all touchy until we get to a convenience store where there was a cop brutally eyeballing me for what I was doing. I broke it off. But . . . holy ****! There's no way that should ever work! (Yes, I am aware it was a terrible idea that I should not try again.)
As best I can tell, at this point, the only mistake I can make is not escalating rapidly! What the hell? I feel like I've somehow crossed some attractiveness threshold where women expect me to behave like the greatest alpha male that ever lived.
It's very weird, because I've always felt like I've needed to tighten down my social game. I'm a terrible, distant, difficult person. I also had a lot of trouble when I was learning early on with comfort building. A lot of times, I'd jump the gun on escalation and get blown out. So, I have a bit of a slow timer in my head about when to escalate. But, now, I'm apparently allowed to just go up to the hottest chick around and do whatever I want.
It just all feels very bizarro universe to me after spending years trying to tighten things down one element at a time. Also, frankly, I'm afraid I might go off and do something really reckless. I don't know. It's just weird.
Any thoughts?
Over the last two years, I've gone hard improving myself. I run regularly, lift weights and have gotten in better shape than I was in HS (I'm 35, BTW). I've improved my income, bought a vastly better wardrobe and focus on going out more.
In the last few months, something very strange has happened.
First off, women stopped hitting on me altogether. I used to get a decent amount of attention from chicks in the SMV 5-7 range. Heck, I even had a few buy me a drink.
Second, when I approach, I have to aim for the highest SMV chick around. If I'm not going for the very hottest chick, everyone seems to notice. The 5-7 range women now look at me like I am up to something. If I do get some play, every woman in the place starts giving her the evil eye.
Third, I seem to be having real trouble calibrating my escalation with these hotter women. I've spent a lot of effort on knocking out social game and comfort. Here's the thing . . . If I spend too much time developing comfort, the hot chick just loses interest. Anything more than 20 minutes before I start groping and grinding seems to be an utter disappointment to women now. On the other hand, if I just go in like a completely non-verbal ape, things go perfect.
Fourth, women have started doing some really aggressive **** toward me if I ignore them. I've had three different chicks in the last six months outright shove me. They didn't even try chatting me up. They just went right for a shove, completely unprovoked! I'm not talking a nudge. I'm talking a heavy shove that left a red mark on my chest. One chick I ignored made a point of driving past me and yelling at me that I could have "had this" after everyone was outside the bar. I've had several ask me if I was gay!
Finally, I've tried to recalibrate and escalate my game. And there seems to be no actual limit to what I can now get away with. An example . . . Satruday night I was leaving the club on foot. I was pretty drunk. And there was a chick ahead of me a block in a poorly lit area by herself. So, I decided to approach her. From behind. In the dark. Quickly. She's a high 7. Here's the thing . . . I laughed it off and apologized to her AND IT WORKED. We start getting all touchy until we get to a convenience store where there was a cop brutally eyeballing me for what I was doing. I broke it off. But . . . holy ****! There's no way that should ever work! (Yes, I am aware it was a terrible idea that I should not try again.)
As best I can tell, at this point, the only mistake I can make is not escalating rapidly! What the hell? I feel like I've somehow crossed some attractiveness threshold where women expect me to behave like the greatest alpha male that ever lived.
It's very weird, because I've always felt like I've needed to tighten down my social game. I'm a terrible, distant, difficult person. I also had a lot of trouble when I was learning early on with comfort building. A lot of times, I'd jump the gun on escalation and get blown out. So, I have a bit of a slow timer in my head about when to escalate. But, now, I'm apparently allowed to just go up to the hottest chick around and do whatever I want.
It just all feels very bizarro universe to me after spending years trying to tighten things down one element at a time. Also, frankly, I'm afraid I might go off and do something really reckless. I don't know. It's just weird.
Any thoughts?