"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Oh this is a reminder to myself why I avoid girls under 24.

Let me preface by saying this was a girl off okcupid who we exchanged numbers and started texting a bit. She seemed very repressed, humor less, and very uptight who thought at her age she was god's gift to guys my age.

Anyway few text exchanges and her response to playful banter with no sexual innuendo at all was:

"Ok truth... I find you creepy, intolerable, and vapid so I'm done talking"

My response: "what, I'm too cute for you? I understand. Take care"

Her" "You too, I'm sorry"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I hear ya. The bright side to this is that there was a minimum of games and wasting of time... I agree with you 100% that a 20 year-old woman should be avoided pretty much at all costs if you're older -- when you add "humorless" and "repressed" to the equation, nothing good will come of this.

Well, at least she said she was sorry at the end.... I wouldn't take any of this personally, TT.

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This type of entitled, smug attitude makes me seethe. You handled it well.
 

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"Creepy" has zero meaning anymore. It means absolutely nothing as a catch all.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Damn, dude. What I'm wondering is how much were you texting this girl in order for her to even say this to you?

Typically I get a girl's number/arrange a date in the 3rd email on these sites. Then I text her first like "Hey it's Iceberg. How's it going? Just wanted to make sure I gave you my number. Catch you soon."

Then the 2nd time I text, I arrange the date.

I'm just struggling to imagine how much "playful banter" you were sending that would elicit such an ignorant response from her.

With online chicks, it's "sh!t or get off the pot". Can't be doing too much bantering prior to meeting the girl. She's judging you off of your pictures, and not sounding like a lunatic in your messages. Beyond that, I don't see the need for excess banter.
 

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...and the best word to describe her would be "clueless."
 

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I had a 19yo call me a "cvnt" during an online dating message exchange in which I very lightly and playfully negged her.
I replied: "Ooh, your mummy would be so proud of you using such 'grown-up' language. Get some fvcking class."
Then blocked her.
 

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I believe it's largely due to a super false sense of superiority caused by youthfulness and getting much attention based on the fact that they look good.

They think they're entitled more than they actually deserve. It's similar to how teenagers think they know it all and are invincible.

What's funny is these same girls will reach their mid to late 30s and will notice a drastic decline in attention they get and become more civil to an extent (some never change)

I used to want to learn every technique to turn these girls around and/or somehow show I'm not one to be walked over. But it's all too much effort and leads to putting on essentially an act. So I simply just reframe their actions and walk off. I don't care or know how it affects them but boy do I feel great lol
 

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You know what the best treatment is for these cvnts? Ignore them. Forever. Dont even have a comeback. It feels good in the moment but in reality you are just feeding their ego and game.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tryst type said:
What's funny is these same girls will reach their mid to late 30s and will notice a drastic decline in attention they get and become more civil to an extent (some never change)
I'm stretching this comment further than you intended, but I think we drastically overestimate how much rotten people suffer "down the line" because of their rottenness. All sorts of b1tches like this end up married and happy and never get their comeuppance.

This stuff about the best revenge is to live well is vastly overstated. Usually no one is going to even know or give a crap that you are living well and often you're living just as well as they are anyway... maybe even worse. If you want revenge, you have to make it happen. I'm not actually recommending someone get revenge, but if one is to do it or not do it, at least base the decision on true facts.
 

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mrRuckus said:
I'm stretching this comment further than you intended, but I think we drastically overestimate how much rotten people suffer "down the line" because of their rottenness. All sorts of b1tches like this end up married and happy and never get their comeuppance.

This stuff about the best revenge is to live well is vastly overstated. Usually no one is going to even know or give a crap that you are living well and often you're living just as well as they are anyway... maybe even worse. If you want revenge, you have to make it happen. I'm not actually recommending someone get revenge, but if one is to do it or not do it, at least base the decision on true facts.

actually most hawt chicks do quite well in their 30s and 40s...they find a nice wealthy geeky computer guy...give him a few wet BJS....geeky guy proposes....never knowing his 35 year old former hottie used to have trains run on her every weekend in her 20s...

Now former hottie has a nice house a M3 beamer a closet full of Prada all courtesy of clueless geeky dude...now former hottie starts banging the local football star who works at whole foods....

Geeky husband gets suspicious when wife comes home with a broccoli sprig inserted in her azz...she laughs and plays it off like shes trying to get more fiber :crackup: :crackup: :D :crackup:
 

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Im suprised a 20 year old would even know what "vapid" meant, let alone use it in a sentence.
 

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Very aggressive response.

No matter what you do, getting a reaction like that after mere texting tells more about her than you.

Good riddance.

Reply or don't reply ( to her last text) it is entirely up to you. Proceed as however you damn please. But don't date her ;)
 

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You know what I tend to find with OK Cupid girls? They're charmless. Relatively intelligent, sure, but as a rule they don't know how to be playful, they don't know how to have a conversation for the sake of enjoying the conversation - it's always about point scoring and one-upmanship. The b!tch shields never quite come down.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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