"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tryst type

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Oh this is a reminder to myself why I avoid girls under 24.

Let me preface by saying this was a girl off okcupid who we exchanged numbers and started texting a bit. She seemed very repressed, humor less, and very uptight who thought at her age she was god's gift to guys my age.

Anyway few text exchanges and her response to playful banter with no sexual innuendo at all was:

"Ok truth... I find you creepy, intolerable, and vapid so I'm done talking"

My response: "what, I'm too cute for you? I understand. Take care"

Her" "You too, I'm sorry"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Gambler

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I hear ya. The bright side to this is that there was a minimum of games and wasting of time... I agree with you 100% that a 20 year-old woman should be avoided pretty much at all costs if you're older -- when you add "humorless" and "repressed" to the equation, nothing good will come of this.

Well, at least she said she was sorry at the end.... I wouldn't take any of this personally, TT.

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This type of entitled, smug attitude makes me seethe. You handled it well.
 

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"Creepy" has zero meaning anymore. It means absolutely nothing as a catch all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damn, dude. What I'm wondering is how much were you texting this girl in order for her to even say this to you?

Typically I get a girl's number/arrange a date in the 3rd email on these sites. Then I text her first like "Hey it's Iceberg. How's it going? Just wanted to make sure I gave you my number. Catch you soon."

Then the 2nd time I text, I arrange the date.

I'm just struggling to imagine how much "playful banter" you were sending that would elicit such an ignorant response from her.

With online chicks, it's "sh!t or get off the pot". Can't be doing too much bantering prior to meeting the girl. She's judging you off of your pictures, and not sounding like a lunatic in your messages. Beyond that, I don't see the need for excess banter.
 

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...and the best word to describe her would be "clueless."
 

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I had a 19yo call me a "cvnt" during an online dating message exchange in which I very lightly and playfully negged her.
I replied: "Ooh, your mummy would be so proud of you using such 'grown-up' language. Get some fvcking class."
Then blocked her.
 

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I believe it's largely due to a super false sense of superiority caused by youthfulness and getting much attention based on the fact that they look good.

They think they're entitled more than they actually deserve. It's similar to how teenagers think they know it all and are invincible.

What's funny is these same girls will reach their mid to late 30s and will notice a drastic decline in attention they get and become more civil to an extent (some never change)

I used to want to learn every technique to turn these girls around and/or somehow show I'm not one to be walked over. But it's all too much effort and leads to putting on essentially an act. So I simply just reframe their actions and walk off. I don't care or know how it affects them but boy do I feel great lol
 

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You know what the best treatment is for these cvnts? Ignore them. Forever. Dont even have a comeback. It feels good in the moment but in reality you are just feeding their ego and game.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tryst type said:
What's funny is these same girls will reach their mid to late 30s and will notice a drastic decline in attention they get and become more civil to an extent (some never change)
I'm stretching this comment further than you intended, but I think we drastically overestimate how much rotten people suffer "down the line" because of their rottenness. All sorts of b1tches like this end up married and happy and never get their comeuppance.

This stuff about the best revenge is to live well is vastly overstated. Usually no one is going to even know or give a crap that you are living well and often you're living just as well as they are anyway... maybe even worse. If you want revenge, you have to make it happen. I'm not actually recommending someone get revenge, but if one is to do it or not do it, at least base the decision on true facts.
 

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mrRuckus said:
I'm stretching this comment further than you intended, but I think we drastically overestimate how much rotten people suffer "down the line" because of their rottenness. All sorts of b1tches like this end up married and happy and never get their comeuppance.

This stuff about the best revenge is to live well is vastly overstated. Usually no one is going to even know or give a crap that you are living well and often you're living just as well as they are anyway... maybe even worse. If you want revenge, you have to make it happen. I'm not actually recommending someone get revenge, but if one is to do it or not do it, at least base the decision on true facts.

actually most hawt chicks do quite well in their 30s and 40s...they find a nice wealthy geeky computer guy...give him a few wet BJS....geeky guy proposes....never knowing his 35 year old former hottie used to have trains run on her every weekend in her 20s...

Now former hottie has a nice house a M3 beamer a closet full of Prada all courtesy of clueless geeky dude...now former hottie starts banging the local football star who works at whole foods....

Geeky husband gets suspicious when wife comes home with a broccoli sprig inserted in her azz...she laughs and plays it off like shes trying to get more fiber :crackup: :crackup: :D :crackup:
 

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Im suprised a 20 year old would even know what "vapid" meant, let alone use it in a sentence.
 

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Very aggressive response.

No matter what you do, getting a reaction like that after mere texting tells more about her than you.

Good riddance.

Reply or don't reply ( to her last text) it is entirely up to you. Proceed as however you damn please. But don't date her ;)
 

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You know what I tend to find with OK Cupid girls? They're charmless. Relatively intelligent, sure, but as a rule they don't know how to be playful, they don't know how to have a conversation for the sake of enjoying the conversation - it's always about point scoring and one-upmanship. The b!tch shields never quite come down.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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