Adept -Socializing aka handling women

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Any of you guys here at the boards socially-adepted? Meaning if you have skills in talking with women, or good skills with handling with them.

Being borned adepted is a bit of a ratio compared with the ones who are not. Like 1:100 or possibly 1:1000. Anyways, being borned adepted with socializing should be one of the best head-starts without noticing it.

In high school or in college, don't you guys see some people much better in socializing with chicks somehow and how the people you know; or maybe you have been practicing socializing with women for years and you still don't get what you want with women? Yeah... might because of the word : adept.

This word (adept) has been the favorite of mine (besides genes, genetics, etc). Thanks to Nocturnal of course.

Not only would having a "natural" skill that made you good enough with women to touch you or whatever, but your appearance is part of it. Once they get used to your socializing, they will get used to your attitudes, then your looks.

 

[RedZone122]

Yes! Me! You hit my situation right on target. I can talk with women absolutely fine (senior in high school) - I just simply don't know what I want. This website is a great guideline, however.

 

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You've learned about genetics, heredity, chromosomes, etc. haven't you? If so, please PM me.

 

[KiInCollege]

Copout statements.

You were tempted to oversimplify because of your interest in genetics, or what-have-you. I guess most of us aren't 1:100 so about all of us are social gimps? Laughable.

You can empower yourself to be sociable, even if you weren't "in high school." The people that had a head start may have had a very good upbringing in a loving home with good communication. Genetics may play a role in your mood, however education and experience is the path to social affluence.

 

[KiInCollege]

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=51060

Maxtro's reference above states the exact principles I just laid out above, with another example and lengthy hypothesis. I just read that post and it fit perfectly.

 

[Dirtheart]

Exactly. I don't believe anybody is born socially adept. Social skills are something you learn or get used to with practice.

I used to be very shy and introverted. I wouldn't talk to anybody unless they spoke to me first, and even then it was with great difficulty. These days, after a lot of practice and experience, I can talk to anyone and it seems like everyone wants to be my best friend.

I wouldn't change my platonic social skills in any way, but I'm not yet experienced in making advances on women I like, which is something I'm in the process of learning.

 

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They are trying to see if genes are what influences personality traits. Known as heredity, which comes from your parents but alot of people I know says they are not like their parents. Anyways, It could be the fact that its the enviroment or from their parents; how they raised the kid.

I'm not saying experience is not the best way, but there are ways of becoming good without it..without self-knowledge.

 

[Maxtro]

I admit that this thread was my motivation to make the thread that KiInCollege referenced. I don’t believe that social skills are attributed to genetics. Actually I even think the genetic norm is being outgoing some more than others. Very few little kids are shy. Most can go up to anybody and start a conversation. What makes them shy is how people react to them.

When he as a little kid my little brother would go up to women, start talking to them and ended up sitting on their laps. He’s not like that anymore though but he did have a lot more girls than I did when we were both kids. He lucked out by picking girls who liked him while I didn't.

 

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Well here's something I wondering:

Could gene codes have to do with all this?

 

[Dirtheart]

Social restrictions, I believe, are generally the cause of embedded restrictions that come from experience. Rejection, insults, failure etc all contribute to people's fears, self-doubt and comfort levels.

If you have never experienced rejection, how can you fear it? It is something you learn.

I don't believe genes determine much more than physical traits, but I'm more of a "cause and effect" believer.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

when I was in 5th grade my family moved to a new state and I remember feeling sorry for myself cause I didn't have a lot of friends. When I told my dad about it, he really pissed me off. Expecting sympathy in return, he gave me absolutely none, and instead said I only had myself to blame. It was up to me to figure out why or what they didn't like about me. In a sense, it was up to me to figure out what makes people tick, what makes them act a certain way or think a certain way. At first I was mad about his reaction, but when I put some effort into observing and contemplating human nature, the results were evident. After I grew up I thanked him for that day.

I don't think anyone is born with social skills, they must be learned.

 

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Do you guys notice how there used to be some guys who would get much more girls and have alot of girls touch them in high school? Lets discuss about that... I think this is because of their physical features. I notice alot of the girls happen to use the kino on the guys who look good in their bodies and at least the decent in their face.

 

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keeping the vote alive

 

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please try to let us know about yourself if you would like if you picked yes

 

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[willo]

I voted that I am..... I have a large family so if I didn't have good social skills now I don't think I would ever. Having said this one of my little brothers is pretty bad , hmmm maybe there is a genetic element, but I think nurture has more bearing on social skills than nature because socialisation is a learnt skill.
Cheers

 

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so its learn, of course...but it depends where and how u learn it

 

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bump, only using this for the voting im assuming