I have seen guys talking about adding girls they found on POF, and even girls they met IRL and are trying to fvck, as Facebook friends. But it seems that this is actually counter productive and can hurt you?
I know in the past I was very liberal about adding women I was trying to fvck. And in some ways it was good, in that I got plenty of picture comments, wall comments, etc., and it was obvious I was seeing multiple women or at least had multiple women interested in me. So that was good.
But the downside is that it makes it very hard to remain mysterious, aloof, and unavailable. Even if you are not talking to them every day, they are still able to learn a lot about your life and what you are thinking/doing. It doesn't give them a chance to project their BS fantasies onto you.
Currently I am back to spinning plates after an LTR, and none of these girls are my FB friends.
Do you guys think the pros (increased social value both from their interactions with you on FB, as well as them seeing pictures of you with past women and friends) outweigh the cons (diminished mystery/distance/unavailability)?
I know in the past I was very liberal about adding women I was trying to fvck. And in some ways it was good, in that I got plenty of picture comments, wall comments, etc., and it was obvious I was seeing multiple women or at least had multiple women interested in me. So that was good.
But the downside is that it makes it very hard to remain mysterious, aloof, and unavailable. Even if you are not talking to them every day, they are still able to learn a lot about your life and what you are thinking/doing. It doesn't give them a chance to project their BS fantasies onto you.
Currently I am back to spinning plates after an LTR, and none of these girls are my FB friends.
Do you guys think the pros (increased social value both from their interactions with you on FB, as well as them seeing pictures of you with past women and friends) outweigh the cons (diminished mystery/distance/unavailability)?