Adding a pic with a baby OLD good/bad idea?

[Stoic]

I'm doing okay approaching in the day, but wanted to just get a passive online profile going with Tinder and Match.

Putting photos through photofeeler and found that a picture with my baby was one of the highest scoring of my pictures. Would it be a good idea to add this or no?

Goal now is to have fun, date as much as schedule allows maybe for a couple of years, then settle down into an LTR.

Would especially appreciate poster Amante Silvestre's (sp?) take on this as he seems to have the corner on OLD.

 

[RangerMIke]

Women love babies and little cute dogs. If you have a baby and/or a dog you will be more attractive. But really it will not help you building interest. If you want to do this, go ahead and do it. But the truth is just as many women will be attracted to this and the number of women who believe you are doing this just to get attention. So my guess is that it would be a wash. They will think "Awe... isn't that cute... he has a baby... what happened to the woman that had this baby?" You might gets some dates with this because it's different and intriguing, but she will want to know what happened, and be prepared to talk about how you ended up alone with a baby, which is really a sh!itty topic on a first date.... because then you are talking about negative stuff involving your ex.

Never try to build rapport on negative topics, chicks are emotional... and it's possible to build an emotional connection with negative stuff because women have negative stuff going on in their lives.... but if you do this, then you will have GREAT conversations where you two will b!tch about negative stuff which is NOT sexy at all. It's a fast track to her thinking of you as a gay male girlfriend. Because when she gets together with her friends... THAT is what they talk about... problems with their kids.... cr@appy situations with the men in their lives... etc.

Your job on a first date is to be a fun guy and make her forget about her problems.

When I first started dating again after my divorce, my girls, who I had custody of, were in pre-school... are twins.... and are really adorable. I got a lot of attention because of this, but chicks lose interest REALLY fast because I will ALWAYS put my kids first over any chick... and women like to be the center of attention. If you put her first... over your kids... you become a cad.... if you put your kids first you are a 'dad' which is the proper behavior and more interesting to chicks... but then again, she isn't in the center... which kills sexual polarity. The only women that this really helps with are women who are single moms... which is another kind of mine-field.

 

[backseatjuan]

No. Put up one travel related pic where you smiling and having fun or clubbing, and one of your very masculine pics to show your masculinity, like the best you got. Also, passive accounts don't fcking work, even Lazar Angelov don't get hit on often, likes yea, but those likes don't bring sht, gotta contact them and open them up. Best tried method so far is the following - Good afternoon, my name is Stoic, I'm do this and this and I'm cool. What are you looking for on this site/tinder? Interest girl would reply, to which you go ahead and ask her number - alright, give me your number let's chat over whatsapp/or text or whatever is working in your country. (am I wrong to assume that whatsapp is a universal texting app?) An interested girl would give you her number, provided that you have a cool opening line, anything other than a number is not worth chatting, and you don't, either add them to ignore, or don't write to them anything.

I also suggest you try badoo. It's free, and in my area it has bunch of quality women, I love it.

Also the rules of engagement, you log on just once per day and play your numbers game, 20 or so btches at a time, and respond to messages at the same time just once per day. If you want, go ahead and do it once per day or three days. No online sessions on weekends and after 6 pm. Over whatsapp respond every 4 hours, if IL is high more often, like every 5 minutes. If IL is low I drop them from whatsapp, just delete their number. Be not afraid to not talk to them for days on end. I have 3 girls in my whatsapp right now, and I don't want talking to them, I just not feeling it right now, plus there are 2 numbers waiting for me on OLD. Messaging once in a while absolutely does not mean her IL will drop, but it does separate you from the rest.

 

[Stoic]

Thanks Amante. I think running with the information that you provided here will lead to good results. It sounds like you have an OLD system that has served you very well and I intend to emulate it! Thanks again.

 

[backseatjuan]

the whole purpose to a passive approach is not really to attract... it is to ELIMINATE as many women as possible, let the cream rise to the top

Antone in passive mode got just one girl contact him in two weeks, and she was a slvt with slvt sex pics looking for sex and sht. He did get lots of likes on his photos, but that's about it. Thus my point, women do not contact you, just like they do not approach and initiate conversation with you, besides a few exceptions once in a while by slvts. By contrast, Antone gets numbers by contacting women, just like Juan does, on 2nd message. My point man, you gotta contact them.

 

[backseatjuan]

Antone is online twice per week maximum, sometimes once per week. Perhaps OLD dynamic is different in your part of the world. Over here, chicks don't contact.

 

[backseatjuan]

I see what you're saying, but that's not the problem. The site I'm using puts online people up on top. I'm using love.mail.ru