"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm going to try and game this girl I know in my course in university, I already added her previously but I ended up deleting her because I never talked to her but this time I think I'm gonna try it and add her again? I know her name and she knows mine, I knew she had a thing for me at the beginning because I would catch her looking my way and smiling at me.

Once my friend asked for her number and she looked reluctant to give it, she looked at me and said "OK, my number is xxxx" while smiling, I thought that as a hint to take it and phone her but I didn't.

Hoepfully she has forgotten or not realised that I deleted her off my facebook, how should I begin to "game" her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hmm... Go back in time and call her.

If you are going to use Facebook, use it to get her number and call her. Don't "game" her on Facebook. Especially when she gave you hints in person, and you didn't act on them. It just makes you look scared hiding behind the internet.
 
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Yeh but don't I need to develop our friendship first before I just go ahead and ask for her number out of nowhere?

She gave me hints about a year ago when I started university, hopefully she will still give me a chance.

I also need you to know whether she's worth pursuing, I'll post a pic up later!
 
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jammy1257 said:
Yeh but don't I need to develop our friendship first before I just go ahead and ask for her number out of nowhere?
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If you didn't know her already, it would be different. I mean, yeah... if you do add her on Facebook, you are gonna need to do a little bit of small talk first. Your first message shouldn't be asking for her number. But I would either go for the number or make plans during that first discussion.

If there is a way to talk to her/try for her number without using Facebook, that would be my suggestion. Otherwise, add her, make some small talk and then tell her about somewhere that you are going with some people, that she is welcome to join you. Sometimes that works a little better than asking for a 1 on 1 date.

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She gave me hints about a year ago when I started university, hopefully she will still give me a chance.
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Don't bring that up, and definitely don't ask about it. Just assume she's interested. Keep that mindset.

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I also need you to know whether she's worth pursuing, I'll post a pic up later!
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Not gonna argue with that !
 
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How do I not **** this up? I tend to fall in the friendzone and I don't want that to happen with this girl so what do I NOT DO so that I don't end up in the friendzone with this girl?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well, if you have read a lot on here, you have heard it time and time again: Have options. The best way to fvck up with a girl, is when you know in your head that it's all-or-nothing based on her decision.

You can only control a small portion of what it takes for 2 people to work, and for you to bank on that is setting yourself up for failure. If she isn't interested, there is nothing you can do about it, except drive yourself crazy. All the "game" in the world isn't going to work if she simply has no interest.

Luckily, in your case, she has shown interest at some point. But the previous thought still holds true. Desperation and neediness are easy to spot, and hard to hide. So, it's best if you simply don't have them.

Most likely the reason you are falling into the friendzone is because you are not escalating properly, or quick enough. For example: waiting to work your game a year after a girl shows interest!

Kino is key. If you need help on that, use the Search feature, or check out the DJ Bible. There are some good write-ups on kino out there. Also, get some sexual innuendos into the conversation. Try to raise some sexual tension. Kino and sexual conversation can keep you out of the "safe" zone where she puts her friends. It helps reinforce your intentions, as well.
 
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You should have gamed her in person when you had the chance. If facebook is your only option now then I say go ahead and try. Add her, chat for a bit then get her number. Once you get her number stop trying to use facebook as means of communicating with her.

Get the number. Call to meet up for a date. Game her face to face. Facebook is used by girls to get their daily ego boost.
 
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AH now that I think about, I have never used kino or touched my female friends hands or anything, I'll do it and see where it gets me.
 
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I'm thinking you un-friended her for some perceived slight last time. I'm not buying all this.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm thinking you un-friended her for some perceived slight last time. I'm not buying all this.
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this is the problem with deleting people, it doesn't look very good - and it looks even worse if you change your mind and then try and re-add, its a really bad look

and emblematic of the problems of many on this forum - the flitting between 2 extremes of overcontact and non-contact
 
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