Addicted About Feeling Good About My Self

[whir]

OK guys i thnk Im being addicted to this girl..well this is the first time i encounter this feeling i know all the rules and i have to say im not bad on hooking up som girls...But this time I had tremandous crush on this chick then I applied again all the things that i learnd of corz it end up she is enjoying my company she give her number and she starts to like me because i applied all the things that i learned now this is the problem since she make me feel super good about my self I think Im starting to be addictd to her...I want to talk to her everyime but I know I should not so Im freaking frustrated I want to express and share my good felings that i have but that it wil be a sure shot that ill f*ck up.. I want to b there everytime but and tell her that I want her but that is freaking scuicide..I must control this feling or might fck up...

So what should I do what should I think? what mind set should i put n my head so that I can kill this feeling and not to end up like a desperate needy wuzz...

this is th first tim I encountred onnitis again since I studied being a player so im not familiar on how to fight this fraking feeling...

thanx guys...

 

[Bussey]

As hard as it is... disconnect from her. LOL, find flaws in her and exagerate them in your mind. I've had oneitis before and you just gotta realize that she's not that great.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

I am still getting over oneitis as we speak. I gotta say, the biggest help to me was getting to know the girl better, and doing EXACTLY what bussey said. I avoided talking to her too much, but when I did I'd search for reasons why I wouldn't want to date her or things that made her far less than ideal. Unfortunately that thing I found was that she's a total b1tch and now I am infatuated with the idea of sleeping with her to get back at her for playing head games with me.

When I did have it bad, there was NOTHING that would help, althought talking about her constantly to a couple of my closest friends did seem to ease my own personal burden.

 

[DarkLight]

Find another.

Seriously... I know how you feel. We all do.
Go find a different cutie... and spark up some beauty with her.
The same thing will happen.

But now... The difference is you'll have 2 babydolls to think about, thus neither will get totally fixated upon. You'll find yourself comparing the 2. And that alone will give you a surface to reflect their "weaknesses/strengths."

Then maybe stack another into the mix. lol
... you get the picture.

Only reason why your truly buggin out... is cause you only have 1 on the wall of your mind. Thus the theory and value of "plate spinning." (Do a search for it. Some good threads. I think its Rollo that breaks it down.)

Besides that... try dropping her in your mind. Its a good practice of discipline, and helps fight getting caught in the emotional web of ONEitis. When she comes up in your mind... just drop your mind. Drop the thought... cause thats all it is. Then you won't start building this dream around her so much. Another thing I think is valuable about this is... pyschically, I think she can feel this too. Maybe even if through your interactions, but the results of doing this will definetly be felt. Through your character, the way in which your relating to her, etc.

Besides that. Try involving yourself in activities more.
Theres a reason for the saying..."The idle mind, is the devils playground."
Maybe not when it comes to meditation, but when your just sitting there, and indulging in fixated thoughts, that will steep you deeper into an emotional whirlwind of irrational love... no good. So go out, and do some things. It will take your mind off of her... as well as make your life that much more interesting. You'll be enriching yourself, not obsessing about her, and both of these things will increase her attraction towards you.

Keep it Cool...
Peace'

 

[whir]

man thanx... wont you beleive after reading your insights i imidiately applied it..I go to another girl this girls is super hot... but I still had the treamandous feeling over that chick that i was talking about... but since i cant call her or talk to her what i do is I seek another girl and end up preety good..

I want to the bar and find this chick and make my move...I also got her number and to make the story short i end fcking her..

So this is the catch since I cant call those chicks everytime what i do is i made a schedule for them..

Monday and Thursday is for the girl A- (this is the only day that I will call her.if she calls me in another day well ill naswer it but ill make it brief and show to her that im busy or somthing..)on this day ill just focus on her make any moves or somthing..

Tuesday and friday i- is for the girl B- (this is the only day that I will call her.if she calls me in another day well ill naswer it but ill make it brief and show to her that im busy or somthing..)on this day ill just focus on her make any moves or somthing..

om saturdays and sundays i will not call her im out im with my friends i have a life and im busy...heheheheh

thanx for the help guys