Adapting to a new phase in life

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Matt Rogers

Master Don Juan

Sep 6, 2010

Buddha_Mind. That is some good advice.

I think at my age chasing around trying to get my numbers up would be counterproductive to my other goals in life. I think you are right that I should focus on quality instead. With the amount of effort guys put into chasing women it makes much more sense to just chase the beauties Im going to want to keep around rather than the club slyts that you get bored of after a couple of fvcks.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.