"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Adapt to their expectations and embrace who you are

Jariel

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I've made quite an interesting discovering during the past year. Basically, I'm finding that majority of the women who are interested in me like to be sexually dominated and like it rough.

And I believe that's the reason they go for a guy like me. I'm tall, muscular and people tell me I look like a bad ass. So when a woman is attracted to me, she's not just attracted to my looks and personality, but also to the expectations she associates with me.

At one time I used to play the gentleman and nice guy, and the intellectual to some degree, and women would tell me I look different to the way I act, or that I'm not how they expected me to be. Although they said it in a complimentary way, these women usually rejected me after getting to know me.

Rewind some years to when I was quite thin, metrosexual and clean cut, and I attracted a completely different type of woman with different expectations. They wanted a more passive guy and they liked to be in control when it came to sex.

The saying goes that we should never judge a book by its cover, but it's natural for us to do that. We form assumptions every day. When we look at someone, we think we can determine the type of person they are and can even form our attraction based on that expectation.

What I've learned from this is that women expect me to be dominant, they like it rough in the bedroom, so I oblige! I must admit, that's how I prefer it too, but in the past I have made the mistake of being sensual and gentle.

Basically, if you're finding you're intitially attracting women and they lose interest after getting to know you, it could be down to inconsistency in your personality. If your'e a pretty boy or a geek, don't try to act tough. There are plenty of women who like the pretty boys and geeks, and that means the whole package. Likewise, if you're a bodybuilder or a rugby player, don't try to engage a woman in an intellectual discussion.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oldspice891

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That's a good point. Too often you attract them, and then over the course of the game, you lose your image that initially attracted her.
 

Ease

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The best looking women will go for the rugby muscular rough tough guys though. The girls you used to get as a geek or prettyboy will not be of the same league.
 
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