"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Adapt to their expectations and embrace who you are

Jariel

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I've made quite an interesting discovering during the past year. Basically, I'm finding that majority of the women who are interested in me like to be sexually dominated and like it rough.

And I believe that's the reason they go for a guy like me. I'm tall, muscular and people tell me I look like a bad ass. So when a woman is attracted to me, she's not just attracted to my looks and personality, but also to the expectations she associates with me.

At one time I used to play the gentleman and nice guy, and the intellectual to some degree, and women would tell me I look different to the way I act, or that I'm not how they expected me to be. Although they said it in a complimentary way, these women usually rejected me after getting to know me.

Rewind some years to when I was quite thin, metrosexual and clean cut, and I attracted a completely different type of woman with different expectations. They wanted a more passive guy and they liked to be in control when it came to sex.

The saying goes that we should never judge a book by its cover, but it's natural for us to do that. We form assumptions every day. When we look at someone, we think we can determine the type of person they are and can even form our attraction based on that expectation.

What I've learned from this is that women expect me to be dominant, they like it rough in the bedroom, so I oblige! I must admit, that's how I prefer it too, but in the past I have made the mistake of being sensual and gentle.

Basically, if you're finding you're intitially attracting women and they lose interest after getting to know you, it could be down to inconsistency in your personality. If your'e a pretty boy or a geek, don't try to act tough. There are plenty of women who like the pretty boys and geeks, and that means the whole package. Likewise, if you're a bodybuilder or a rugby player, don't try to engage a woman in an intellectual discussion.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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oldspice891

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That's a good point. Too often you attract them, and then over the course of the game, you lose your image that initially attracted her.
 

Ease

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The best looking women will go for the rugby muscular rough tough guys though. The girls you used to get as a geek or prettyboy will not be of the same league.
 
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