"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Adam Carolla: Middle of the road guys don't get laid.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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This is resonating - last week, as an experiment, I went Johnny Cash for a day. And discovered my new professional look. Black shoes, black pants, black Stafford shirt. And everywhere I went, it was different. I became the dark horse, the bold man in black. In the course of my calls, I walked into an upstart newspaper publishing firm, and basically told the publisher he was going to hire me as a contributing writer/outside salesman. And he did.
Now, growing ridiculous facial hair and the other tenets of uber-douchebaggery we saw in that video are too far. IMO, self-respecting men don't become a clown to get laid.
Now, growing ridiculous facial hair and the other tenets of uber-douchebaggery we saw in that video are too far. IMO, self-respecting men don't become a clown to get laid.
Thanks for the link! enjoyed it immensely!
I guess at the end of the day, it's his personal view to believe that a 'man,' needs to be 'something,' to be noticed. Which is essentially true.
Be the Player, the Emo, The Whatever. Just make sure you're something! haha
I guess at the end of the day, it's his personal view to believe that a 'man,' needs to be 'something,' to be noticed. Which is essentially true.
Be the Player, the Emo, The Whatever. Just make sure you're something! haha
It's the same in business.
You can have a bland name and provide the same products and services your competitors offer in the the same way that they offer them and still take home a paycheck every week (if you at least manage the business correctly), but the truly successful businesses are the ones that stand out from the crowd with a catchy name and a unique marketing angle.
Watch the new show "Pitchmen" on Discovery. Perfectly illustrates how a product has to grab attention to sell with direct response advertising.
When you are a man looking to attract women, you are a "product". What sets you apart from the crowd?
Women will always be attracted to shiny things and "novelty".
Matter of fact, Roissy just posted a blog about this here
You can have a bland name and provide the same products and services your competitors offer in the the same way that they offer them and still take home a paycheck every week (if you at least manage the business correctly), but the truly successful businesses are the ones that stand out from the crowd with a catchy name and a unique marketing angle.
Watch the new show "Pitchmen" on Discovery. Perfectly illustrates how a product has to grab attention to sell with direct response advertising.
When you are a man looking to attract women, you are a "product". What sets you apart from the crowd?
Women will always be attracted to shiny things and "novelty".
Matter of fact, Roissy just posted a blog about this here
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I believe the most important thing Adam Carolla said was: "Its all in the attitude".
You got to project your sexuality/masculinity through your looks and demeanor. All the pictures that were cleverly chosen for this video of the "middle of the road guys" were of guys who just by looking at them you knew that they were "nice guys". Those nice guys tend to act exactly like the way they dress, nothing crazy at all just playing it safe and plain by dressing like the mannequin in an Old Navy clothing store. You might be a bad boy inside but if you don't show that to the whole world then girls will assume you are a nice guy without a backbone based on a first visual inspection only.
"Nice guy" = boring.
Adam is also right about the bullsh1t. Guys who overdouche it like the rest of the guys in the video, are a bunch of copycats. Those guys aren't originals but they mimic and project themselves based on other guys who do well with women. In the short run if you can talk the talk and walk the walk, women will believe the man you project yourself to be.
Now what does that mean in the end? basically it comes down to avoiding the two extreme's and not looking or acting like the uber-nice guy (AFC) or becoming the douchebag (The Jerk). In actuality its really up to you, if you aren't lacking pvssy then don't change but if you do then take a chance and change your looks or even attitude and be a bit of an a$$hole.
Go to the gym to get the body, get hoobies so that they will reflect who you are and what you are doing in life, get a haircut that doesn't scream "computer-club" and dress up with a little bit of style.
Become the guy with an edge.
You got to project your sexuality/masculinity through your looks and demeanor. All the pictures that were cleverly chosen for this video of the "middle of the road guys" were of guys who just by looking at them you knew that they were "nice guys". Those nice guys tend to act exactly like the way they dress, nothing crazy at all just playing it safe and plain by dressing like the mannequin in an Old Navy clothing store. You might be a bad boy inside but if you don't show that to the whole world then girls will assume you are a nice guy without a backbone based on a first visual inspection only.
"Nice guy" = boring.
Adam is also right about the bullsh1t. Guys who overdouche it like the rest of the guys in the video, are a bunch of copycats. Those guys aren't originals but they mimic and project themselves based on other guys who do well with women. In the short run if you can talk the talk and walk the walk, women will believe the man you project yourself to be.
Now what does that mean in the end? basically it comes down to avoiding the two extreme's and not looking or acting like the uber-nice guy (AFC) or becoming the douchebag (The Jerk). In actuality its really up to you, if you aren't lacking pvssy then don't change but if you do then take a chance and change your looks or even attitude and be a bit of an a$$hole.
Go to the gym to get the body, get hoobies so that they will reflect who you are and what you are doing in life, get a haircut that doesn't scream "computer-club" and dress up with a little bit of style.
Become the guy with an edge.
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This has been engrained in my brain. Becoming the guy with the edge is like opening all sorts of treasure chests with a skeleton key,
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i dont wear anything from old navy but i will admit, i do "play it safe" when choosing what to wear.
i think it comes down to the fear of being noticed or bringing attention to myself.
A bootcamp will help you there. Only if you stick to it though. Actually applying yourself to do something you know you're weak at is the only way to improve upon it.Phenomenal One said:
Go to a flashy mall and browse, do it a couple of times and watch teh people around you. Eventually you'll get an idea of what kind of look you want to go for. The best part is you'll already be in the perfect position to buy!
