"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Adam Carolla: Middle of the road guys don't get laid.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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This is resonating - last week, as an experiment, I went Johnny Cash for a day. And discovered my new professional look. Black shoes, black pants, black Stafford shirt. And everywhere I went, it was different. I became the dark horse, the bold man in black. In the course of my calls, I walked into an upstart newspaper publishing firm, and basically told the publisher he was going to hire me as a contributing writer/outside salesman. And he did.
Now, growing ridiculous facial hair and the other tenets of uber-douchebaggery we saw in that video are too far. IMO, self-respecting men don't become a clown to get laid.
Now, growing ridiculous facial hair and the other tenets of uber-douchebaggery we saw in that video are too far. IMO, self-respecting men don't become a clown to get laid.
Thanks for the link! enjoyed it immensely!
I guess at the end of the day, it's his personal view to believe that a 'man,' needs to be 'something,' to be noticed. Which is essentially true.
Be the Player, the Emo, The Whatever. Just make sure you're something! haha
I guess at the end of the day, it's his personal view to believe that a 'man,' needs to be 'something,' to be noticed. Which is essentially true.
Be the Player, the Emo, The Whatever. Just make sure you're something! haha
It's the same in business.
You can have a bland name and provide the same products and services your competitors offer in the the same way that they offer them and still take home a paycheck every week (if you at least manage the business correctly), but the truly successful businesses are the ones that stand out from the crowd with a catchy name and a unique marketing angle.
Watch the new show "Pitchmen" on Discovery. Perfectly illustrates how a product has to grab attention to sell with direct response advertising.
When you are a man looking to attract women, you are a "product". What sets you apart from the crowd?
Women will always be attracted to shiny things and "novelty".
Matter of fact, Roissy just posted a blog about this here
You can have a bland name and provide the same products and services your competitors offer in the the same way that they offer them and still take home a paycheck every week (if you at least manage the business correctly), but the truly successful businesses are the ones that stand out from the crowd with a catchy name and a unique marketing angle.
Watch the new show "Pitchmen" on Discovery. Perfectly illustrates how a product has to grab attention to sell with direct response advertising.
When you are a man looking to attract women, you are a "product". What sets you apart from the crowd?
Women will always be attracted to shiny things and "novelty".
Matter of fact, Roissy just posted a blog about this here
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I believe the most important thing Adam Carolla said was: "Its all in the attitude".
You got to project your sexuality/masculinity through your looks and demeanor. All the pictures that were cleverly chosen for this video of the "middle of the road guys" were of guys who just by looking at them you knew that they were "nice guys". Those nice guys tend to act exactly like the way they dress, nothing crazy at all just playing it safe and plain by dressing like the mannequin in an Old Navy clothing store. You might be a bad boy inside but if you don't show that to the whole world then girls will assume you are a nice guy without a backbone based on a first visual inspection only.
"Nice guy" = boring.
Adam is also right about the bullsh1t. Guys who overdouche it like the rest of the guys in the video, are a bunch of copycats. Those guys aren't originals but they mimic and project themselves based on other guys who do well with women. In the short run if you can talk the talk and walk the walk, women will believe the man you project yourself to be.
Now what does that mean in the end? basically it comes down to avoiding the two extreme's and not looking or acting like the uber-nice guy (AFC) or becoming the douchebag (The Jerk). In actuality its really up to you, if you aren't lacking pvssy then don't change but if you do then take a chance and change your looks or even attitude and be a bit of an a$$hole.
Go to the gym to get the body, get hoobies so that they will reflect who you are and what you are doing in life, get a haircut that doesn't scream "computer-club" and dress up with a little bit of style.
Become the guy with an edge.
You got to project your sexuality/masculinity through your looks and demeanor. All the pictures that were cleverly chosen for this video of the "middle of the road guys" were of guys who just by looking at them you knew that they were "nice guys". Those nice guys tend to act exactly like the way they dress, nothing crazy at all just playing it safe and plain by dressing like the mannequin in an Old Navy clothing store. You might be a bad boy inside but if you don't show that to the whole world then girls will assume you are a nice guy without a backbone based on a first visual inspection only.
"Nice guy" = boring.
Adam is also right about the bullsh1t. Guys who overdouche it like the rest of the guys in the video, are a bunch of copycats. Those guys aren't originals but they mimic and project themselves based on other guys who do well with women. In the short run if you can talk the talk and walk the walk, women will believe the man you project yourself to be.
Now what does that mean in the end? basically it comes down to avoiding the two extreme's and not looking or acting like the uber-nice guy (AFC) or becoming the douchebag (The Jerk). In actuality its really up to you, if you aren't lacking pvssy then don't change but if you do then take a chance and change your looks or even attitude and be a bit of an a$$hole.
Go to the gym to get the body, get hoobies so that they will reflect who you are and what you are doing in life, get a haircut that doesn't scream "computer-club" and dress up with a little bit of style.
Become the guy with an edge.
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This has been engrained in my brain. Becoming the guy with the edge is like opening all sorts of treasure chests with a skeleton key,
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i dont wear anything from old navy but i will admit, i do "play it safe" when choosing what to wear.
i think it comes down to the fear of being noticed or bringing attention to myself.
A bootcamp will help you there. Only if you stick to it though. Actually applying yourself to do something you know you're weak at is the only way to improve upon it.Phenomenal One said:
Go to a flashy mall and browse, do it a couple of times and watch teh people around you. Eventually you'll get an idea of what kind of look you want to go for. The best part is you'll already be in the perfect position to buy!
