john paul
Senior Don Juan
Thinking about buying a guitar for a new hobbie. Seems like it could be something fun to get into. Anyone here play one?, if so whats some things i should keep in mind when buying one?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah no kidding, I've been playing for about 2 years now and I still feel like I've just touched the iceberg on what I can do with it. That first year I played, I really sucked at it. At first, progress is really slow, and you'll wonder if you'll ever get anywhere with it. But in the end, it's all worth it. If you have any friends that play, hang out with those guys and get a jam session going. You'll learn a lot from people who already know what they're doing.sav said:i play both accoustic and electric![]()
its a lot of fun, relieves stress... the girls find it kinda cool too
when ur thinking about starting u gotta have the right intentions in mind, you gotta WANT to play... not for a purpose.. like picking up girls.. u gotta want it for yourself.. its the only way you'll get through the first year of playing where you'll utterly suck...![]()
young_gun said:Yeah no kidding, I've been playing for about 2 years now and I still feel like I've just touched the iceberg on what I can do with it. That first year I played, I really sucked at it. At first, progress is really slow, and you'll wonder if you'll ever get anywhere with it. But in the end, it's all worth it. If you have any friends that play, hang out with those guys and get a jam session going. You'll learn a lot from people who already know what they're doing.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bad idea. Fender is the brand I use, but one thing I've learned with guitars is that you get what you pay for. My friend bought the Fender Starcaster with the starter amp (probably the kit you're talking about) and I'll tell you, it was the biggest waste of money ever. The damn thing can't even hold a tune, looks like crap, and feels really unnatural on my fingers.saber said:u dont know what you want yet so I would recomend fenders beginer set w/ amp only 100$$ at guitar center ...then after a year buy something else