Active disintrest the way to go?

[Demonicale]

I mean i went to a gay club last night with a friend of mine (female) with another guy (Gay) ...

Anyhow, being the straight guy i was being stared at left right and centre by all the guy's ... even though i told them i was straight and acted like a **** to them by kinda ignoring them.

Anyhow, this got me thinking, as when i usually go out i kinda stare at women and chase them, but what would happen if i acted the same as i did in the gay club? ... like not really show much intrest?...

I figure one or two thing's can happen .. i either get ignored or girls find my behaviour intresting?...

I know it's a long shot .. just wanted to know if this is something worth doing or not?

Thanks

BTW: i'm STRAIGHT and went to the gay bar with the girl as she just broke up with my best friend lol

 

[Chromeo]

why you hanging out with your best friends ex at a gay bar?

and yes girls love disinterest, makes you look like a challenge.

 

[horaholic]

yes and no. First of all, disinterest only works if there is already a spark of interest in the girls. You can be playing hard to get with her, but be expecting someone with real game to approach her, and take her home while you sit back and watch.

The key is to approach her, and open her, be attractive, yet be a little distant at the same time. Standard push pull. If you're only pushing, you'll push her into another dudes bed.

BTW. Gay dudes always fantasize about nailing a straight dude. That was why you were getting so much attention. Now you know how women feel. If your disinterest theory worked, you would have been thinking to yourself "How come that f@ggot over there in the corner isnt hitting on me?" and then went over and asked him to buy you a drink after flirting with his friend.

Also, active disinterest is a form of supplication.

I've had it work for me. BUT... it was GENUINE disinterest. There have been hot girls that every dude was after, that I thought were stupid bytches and treated them as such, so they chased me. I would resist, but would give in and bang them. Then, I would start to like them, which would make them lose interest in me altogether. Point is, you cant fake disinterest. Stick with push-pull. it works far better.

 

[JCballin88]

I went to a gay club just for fun one night when one of my buddies had a birthday. He's a little bit strange in that he always jokes around that he's gay, even though he's in an LTR with a good girl. So in order to show him it's no laughing matter, we took him into a downtown gay club in a big nearby city.

We theorized later that everyone there must have known we were straight because they just glared at us the whole time we were there. It was pretty stupid so we just left after about 25 minutes.

 

[COD]

ITS ACTIVE DIS-INTEREST..........you gotta initiate then pull back.......bait the hook then wait for a nibble.

Gay men love a challenge.......and they dont give a Ratts butt if you are straight. Venue or location is ALWAYS A FACTOR. Just cause U did this in a gay club with friends doesnt mean that will work on females by yourself in a club.

The theory (active diss-interest) floats around the concept of less is more.....don't try so hard in order to get them to chase you. Odds are if you dont initiate some other dude will take your spot.

Its sort of like you got a chatty player who spits tons of game and the silent good looking friend..........women often notice and desire the guy who isnt so into them.

 

[COD]

and active diss-interest has a expiration date AS DOES PUSH PULL.

Its not so much ignore (competition is fierce) its more not being totally into them.

Once you have them hooked.......you can reel 'em in for a bit, then inject a little diss-interest......just cause U can have sex with them every weekend doesnt mean you should. ALWAYS LEAVE THEM WANTING MORE.......limited exposure.

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Girls are simple minded. When she notices a guy showing interest, initially she would be happy (ego booster) and hang out (depending on your looks, character, etc).

If you show disinterest (be it genuine or not), and she doesn't have another guy persuing her (considering she has some interest in you as well) her IL would be higher.

If there are better guys, then obviously you did the wrong thing at the wrong time; nothing you do later will win her back.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Its worked for me in getting over girls, never for getting them.

Someone @ the RSD forums once said it great, "Feigning disinterest will get you feigned sex with your hand."