Ever hear someone spew a slew of promises then when it comes time to deliver they fall short. Things always seem good in theory, but they seldom measure up to their original expectations. When something or someone appears almost too good to be true, it usually is. The reasoning behind all the hype is simple, they want to satisfy their immediate needs.
How many times have we seen a fancy new gizmo on TV that will revolutionize our lives for 3 easy payments of $19.99. Sales people want to sell you their idea’s, so they make a info-mericial that entices you. The marketing campaign seduces you to thinking your life will be better, it’s the “I gotta have this thing” concept. Be sure to look for the small print, a disclaimer like; individual results may vary……usually tacked on the end, said extremely fast or in super small, super long, legal jargon.
In the initial stages of courtship or the honeymoon phase, promises (whether implied or said outright) seem all wonderful. Down the road, the actual results may vary. I have experienced that presentation rarely lives up to satisfaction.
Countless relationship experts will instruct you to not tell someone how much you care but rather to SHOW them how much you care. A person may say they adore you but is it reflected in their actions. Listen to their words more closely, then when an implication is put out there observe their actions. Are they congruent, did they do exactly what they said they were going to do or did they just tell you want you wanted to hear to appease you in that moment. By observing a persons actions, you can truly see their character in it’s purest form. The old cliché` actions speak louder than words rings very true, particularly in seduction. Some of the greatest people in history are ones that followed through with what they promised. Men of great character, never makes promises they can’t keep.
Okay so how does one separate the real from the fakes?. Answer: the next time anyone tells you they love you, wants to hook up, etc, call their bluff right then and there. I suspect, very few will be sincere enough to follow through on what they claimed. You will most likely hear lame excuses or they avoid you, when they fall short on what was promised. Calling someone’s bluff on the spot is the quickest way to weed out the genuine from the all talks. It really is a time saver as you can focus on sincere people rather then to engage in head games. I can’t tell you how many times I heard women say they are tired of head games, players, liars, etc. It is because most people rarely follow through with actions. Making promises that you never intend on keeping eventually leads to people not taking you serious, loss of respect and may go as far as people not wanting you around.
Dating is challenging enough without the added stress and drama from dissatisfied people. Avoid searching for lame excuses, confrontations, back peddling and irate people. A good dose of reality for you, if people wanted to be with you they would find a way. Insincere people don’t call, reschedule or hand you yet another excuse. When you encounter these types, simply listen, focus on what they do instead of what they say. Save yourself some heartache and politely move on. Choose your words wisely and stop promising things you cannot deliver……………..or at the very least tack on a disclaimer at the end.
How many times have we seen a fancy new gizmo on TV that will revolutionize our lives for 3 easy payments of $19.99. Sales people want to sell you their idea’s, so they make a info-mericial that entices you. The marketing campaign seduces you to thinking your life will be better, it’s the “I gotta have this thing” concept. Be sure to look for the small print, a disclaimer like; individual results may vary……usually tacked on the end, said extremely fast or in super small, super long, legal jargon.
In the initial stages of courtship or the honeymoon phase, promises (whether implied or said outright) seem all wonderful. Down the road, the actual results may vary. I have experienced that presentation rarely lives up to satisfaction.
Countless relationship experts will instruct you to not tell someone how much you care but rather to SHOW them how much you care. A person may say they adore you but is it reflected in their actions. Listen to their words more closely, then when an implication is put out there observe their actions. Are they congruent, did they do exactly what they said they were going to do or did they just tell you want you wanted to hear to appease you in that moment. By observing a persons actions, you can truly see their character in it’s purest form. The old cliché` actions speak louder than words rings very true, particularly in seduction. Some of the greatest people in history are ones that followed through with what they promised. Men of great character, never makes promises they can’t keep.
Okay so how does one separate the real from the fakes?. Answer: the next time anyone tells you they love you, wants to hook up, etc, call their bluff right then and there. I suspect, very few will be sincere enough to follow through on what they claimed. You will most likely hear lame excuses or they avoid you, when they fall short on what was promised. Calling someone’s bluff on the spot is the quickest way to weed out the genuine from the all talks. It really is a time saver as you can focus on sincere people rather then to engage in head games. I can’t tell you how many times I heard women say they are tired of head games, players, liars, etc. It is because most people rarely follow through with actions. Making promises that you never intend on keeping eventually leads to people not taking you serious, loss of respect and may go as far as people not wanting you around.
Dating is challenging enough without the added stress and drama from dissatisfied people. Avoid searching for lame excuses, confrontations, back peddling and irate people. A good dose of reality for you, if people wanted to be with you they would find a way. Insincere people don’t call, reschedule or hand you yet another excuse. When you encounter these types, simply listen, focus on what they do instead of what they say. Save yourself some heartache and politely move on. Choose your words wisely and stop promising things you cannot deliver……………..or at the very least tack on a disclaimer at the end.