"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Action date ideas

PapiChulo

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I need to set up an action date, but I am lacking ideas on what to do and where to go. Not too extreme like skydiving, please, it's better reserved for my buddies!
I haven't tried paintball and carting, but would love to try something like that. Please, give me some hints!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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BigJimbo

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Maybe try a nice date of BANGING! Think positive. That is the main action you want on your dates.
 

PapiChulo

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That's all nice and tight, but I cant really suggest "banging" as the main event when I call them up.
 

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Paintball? Carting? Dude...way too much.

Keep it simple. Meet up for coffee, and then get it to go...take a little walk.

Meet up for a game of pool...maybe at a bar, have a few drinks, get in some kino, etc...

Save that cute stuff for later man...
 

PapiChulo

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I feel like entertaining myself, women bore me unless I am in their pants, and the regular casual things bore me as well, unless I am out with guys or drunk.

I see there is no way around if you want to bang them as quick as possible.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skiing
Ice skating (can be more fun than you think)
Rock Climbing
Roller Coasters
Paintball
Hunting
landscape photography
Fishing (can be better than you think)
Surfing
White water rafting
boating

I've used most of these as dates and they turned out pretty well. I know what you mean about being bored. Fishing was where I met my last LTR.
 

PapiChulo

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Tread revival. ha ha

I wish I met a chick that I could go hunting with. I live in the country full of animal loving tree-hugging druids.
 

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For some of my D1's i go maybe grab something to eat in a certain area and then walk through this toy store and mess around in there taking pictures with masks on on my phone, then get her to read me a kids story, have sword fights etc... pool/bowling/iceskating is cool depending on the girl.. you cna make bets n stuff which can always lead to whatever (however far u wana push it)
 

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go on hike or check out a museum

i took a chick there and she said I was sophisticated

the whole date after food was less than 40 bucks

we had sex after the next date.

chicks like that stuff
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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EastWind

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Do what you feel like doing. Can be action, can be something else. YOU want to have fun, right? Of course you want to bang her, in the end, but selling your soul or doing things that you never do just because it's with her will show, and it will cost you.

I like to keep things quiet. Have coffee. Share a nice bottle of wine (if you're into wine, doesn't really work with beer). Go dancing (traditional dancing, not that epileptic crisis-style stuff in clubs).

If she doesn't like what YOU like to do, you're headed nowhere anyway. Except if you want to just bang her once. But even then, creating some hugely unconventional date (unconventional to you) just for that seems like wayyyy too much effort.
 
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