"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Acting to Masculine

Kyle Smith

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Hey guys I'm new to SoSuave. I have been an AFC/Niceguy but only when it comes to women. Lately I have been acting more masculine and dominant in that regard. I have a really masculine look. I'm 6'2 210lbs and really athletic/muscular build. Masculine face with storong Jawline, very sunken in cheeks and dimples which really emphasizes the cheeks even more. Everyone that doesn't know me well just assumes I'm a player just from looking at me.

My question is this if you already have a very masculine look is it better to tone down on being Alpha a little? I know being the Niceguy doesn't work but I feel like I may have taken it too far the other way.

This is not meant to be an undercover brag thread. I don't have any game and I am trying to work on that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spaz

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You sound like a girl who is describing her facial looks.

I think you need to notch up on the "Alpha" bit and tone down the "feminine" part.

That should do the trick for now.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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You need to have both. Not be just one or the other. Women like their opposite. If they are 20% masculine and 80% feminine, they will want a man who is 20% feminine and 80% masculine. Kinda like that. Except that it doesn’t really work in percentages that way, but you get what I mean. You have to be her compliment to her sexuality. Say for example you’re a standard tough dude who looks tough, acts tough, is really strong, and doesn’t take ****. Girls will like you but will also fear you. Now if say you are that guy and they see you cradling a baby in your arms or holding an adorable puppy, they will absolutely melt. They will think that you actually do have a sweet spot somewhere after all. Hard man with a sweet spot lol. That’s probably the best.
 

Roober

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You can't be too alpha or masculine. The only way that is possible is if you are actually "trying" to be masculine and not actually masculine.

Think about the the guys that are excessively muscular, they have to work at being excessively muscular with roids or extensive hours in the gym.
Think about the guys who wear offensive or attention grabbing attire, or what game calls "peacocking", it is obvious they are seeking some sort of external validation.

If you are fit and a level-headed masculine guy, the only women you should turn off are uglies, fatties, and hardcore feminists. None of these are women you want anyways. If you are masculine in the truest sense, you will allow a woman to truly fall into her feminine role, which is what women want, even though the feminist imperative would not want them to admit it...
 

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Always be yourself. If they like ya, then great. If not, then find somebody else. Put your own happiness first, don't try and being something you aren't. That never lasts and eventually people see thru it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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