"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Acting to Masculine

Kyle Smith

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Hey guys I'm new to SoSuave. I have been an AFC/Niceguy but only when it comes to women. Lately I have been acting more masculine and dominant in that regard. I have a really masculine look. I'm 6'2 210lbs and really athletic/muscular build. Masculine face with storong Jawline, very sunken in cheeks and dimples which really emphasizes the cheeks even more. Everyone that doesn't know me well just assumes I'm a player just from looking at me.

My question is this if you already have a very masculine look is it better to tone down on being Alpha a little? I know being the Niceguy doesn't work but I feel like I may have taken it too far the other way.

This is not meant to be an undercover brag thread. I don't have any game and I am trying to work on that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spaz

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You sound like a girl who is describing her facial looks.

I think you need to notch up on the "Alpha" bit and tone down the "feminine" part.

That should do the trick for now.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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You need to have both. Not be just one or the other. Women like their opposite. If they are 20% masculine and 80% feminine, they will want a man who is 20% feminine and 80% masculine. Kinda like that. Except that it doesn’t really work in percentages that way, but you get what I mean. You have to be her compliment to her sexuality. Say for example you’re a standard tough dude who looks tough, acts tough, is really strong, and doesn’t take ****. Girls will like you but will also fear you. Now if say you are that guy and they see you cradling a baby in your arms or holding an adorable puppy, they will absolutely melt. They will think that you actually do have a sweet spot somewhere after all. Hard man with a sweet spot lol. That’s probably the best.
 

Roober

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You can't be too alpha or masculine. The only way that is possible is if you are actually "trying" to be masculine and not actually masculine.

Think about the the guys that are excessively muscular, they have to work at being excessively muscular with roids or extensive hours in the gym.
Think about the guys who wear offensive or attention grabbing attire, or what game calls "peacocking", it is obvious they are seeking some sort of external validation.

If you are fit and a level-headed masculine guy, the only women you should turn off are uglies, fatties, and hardcore feminists. None of these are women you want anyways. If you are masculine in the truest sense, you will allow a woman to truly fall into her feminine role, which is what women want, even though the feminist imperative would not want them to admit it...
 

The Duke

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Always be yourself. If they like ya, then great. If not, then find somebody else. Put your own happiness first, don't try and being something you aren't. That never lasts and eventually people see thru it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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